CommitmentPhobe Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Physical Attractiveness Good Income Matured behavior/responsible/emotionally stable Unconditional love Intelligence Sexual capability These are all subjective. Instead of writing a list down of attributes, making an analysis of the state of the world, coming up with a sub-field of science that measures the quality of a well balanced man and whining incessently like a kid that can't get the toy that their parents can't afford, how about you admit that you suck at dating? I didn't think this simple fact would be so hard to digest. ditto
IrishCarBomb Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Now, as ridiculous as this list may sound to most men here (which just proves my point ), it is really meant to find a man who will be a good father and husband. But still, there are very few men out there right now who can meet these very simple requirements. And still in those very few, we have some who are too old to date, married, or in long term relationships. I didn't think this simple fact would be so hard to digest. I agree. It's difficult to find a person suitable to have a deep, meaningful, long-term relationship with. Though it's tough to find these people, they still exist.
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 how about you admit that you suck at dating? lol.. coming from someone calling themselves commitment phobe. Too funny. Like I said, this is not about me or women, so let's get back on track.
samspade Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Physical Attractiveness Good Income Matured behavior/responsible/emotionally stable Unconditional love Intelligence Sexual capability There are plenty of men out there like this. If you're not attracting them or they're not dating you, it's probably something you're doing wrong, or not doing at all. Believe it or not, you have complete control over where and how you meet members of the opposite sex. The hard part is weeding out the duds, but that is part of the process. Finding and meeting people is easy, but you can't expect Prince Charming to ride his steed up to your door and marry you. If you expect that, you're going to lose out to the next girl who tried a little harder. A great guy is a prize who doesn't settle for just anyone!
fral945 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 This thread is about men, so let's just stay on track with that. In my book (and probably most women's), a well balance man will need to have: Physical Attractiveness Good Income Matured behavior/responsible/emotionally stable Unconditional love Intelligence Sexual capability Now, as ridiculous as this list may sound to most men here (which just proves my point ), it is really meant to find a man who will be a good father and husband. But still, there are very few men out there right now who can meet these very simple requirements. And still in those very few, we have some who are too old to date, married, or in long term relationships. ShyGirl, That's pretty subjective and unrealistic (or ridiculous, as you noted). Especially the part about unconditional love, no grown, independent adult should expect that. I could pick that list apart quite a bit, but the bottom line is your view of balanced is skewed. It's ok if that's what you want, just admit that your list is not a well balanced man. It's a romantic, fairy tale man. I guess you probably don't date short men either, right? You want the six footer, tall, dark, and handsome that makes six figures, right? Maybe you parents coddled you and gave you unrealistic expectations of men, IDK. I've read some of your other posts and you tend to have a skewed view of the world in general. But I think you already know that (or if not, are starting to realize it by posting here).
samspade Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Especially the part about unconditional love, no grown, independent adult should expect that. I could pick that list apart quite a bit, but the bottom line is your view of balanced is skewed. It IS funny that she listed "good income" and "unconditional love." Looks like HER love comes with the condition that he make good money, but he's gotta serve at her pleasure, no questions asked. The good news (for her) is there are plenty of wealthy but spineless men out there that will kowtow to a woman!
Lovegod Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Appears like well balanced men do not exist anymore, Poor baby. Let Lovegod make it better... Here's a bunny to keep you company:
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 lol.. coming from someone calling themselves commitment phobe.. Yeah I suppose if I called myself superstudcatch that would make me one.
Jaytb Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 everyone has flaws, it sounds to me well balanced means "has no flaws". Frankly dating is all about picking what flaws you can live with and which ones you can't allow. So the OP is correct, well balanced people don't exist because every person has flaws somewhere. Also, I think I interpret well balanced to mean something different. Well balanced is simply a medium between two extremes, for instance optimistic vs pessimistic. Well balanced means you are neither extreme. So it seems like well balanced should actually mean an average person, or a person with average traits between two extremes. So I think well balanced isn't exactly an apt way of describing this.
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 everyone has flaws, it sounds to me well balanced means "has no flaws". No. It means the good and bad qualities are well balanced together.
tanbark813 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Like I said, this is not about me or women, so let's get back on track. It is, actually. If you, or any woman, can't find a good man then you're either looking in the wrong places or you don't have enough good qualities of your own to attract one.
konfuzd Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 I don't think you're looking for well balanced. You're looking for prince charming. To me a well balanced man means one who is: Confident but not cocky Intelligent without being demeaning Knows when to be funny and when to be serious Affectionate but not smothering Rugged and tough when need be, soft and comforting when need be Physically fit but not a meathead Responsible and reliable with a childlike spirit A freak in the sheets, a gentleman in the streets
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 Instead of denying facts and bitching about how unrealistic and materialistic I am, why don't you take a look at yourselves and make necessary changes, because like or not, these criterias are what most women are looking for. If anything, I'm doing you all a favor by giving you a female perspective on what we're looking for in a soulmate and you'all should thank me.
CaliGuy Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 No. It means the good and bad qualities are well balanced together. When I have heard the term "well balanced" it wasn't in the context of good and bad qualities, it was simply that the person was not too far from center. In this context: Nice Guy/Doormat ------Good Man (Well balanced)------- Jerk Everyone has good and bad qualities. There's no doubt about that. In the context of being well balanced, it simply means a confident, secure man who is good when he should be, puts his foot down when he should, etc. He never strays too far from center.
tanbark813 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Instead of denying facts and bitching about how unrealistic and materialistic I am, why don't you take a look at yourselves and make necessary changes Most ironic, projected statement of the year.
fral945 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Most ironic, projected statement of the year. There are still two and a half months left, tanbark. I think based on her posts so far that she can come up with something even more outrageous in the upcoming months.
CaliGuy Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Instead of denying facts and bitching about how unrealistic and materialistic I am, why don't you take a look at yourselves and make necessary changes, because like or not, these criterias are what most women are looking for. If anything, I'm doing you all a favor by giving you a female perspective on what we're looking for in a soulmate and you'all should thank me. Unrealistic and materialistic. Two qualities I can say for certain would make me RUN from a woman….
Trimmer Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 This thread is about men, so let's just stay on track with that. In my book (and probably most women's), a well balance man will need to have: Physical Attractiveness Good Income Matured behavior/responsible/emotionally stable Unconditional love Intelligence Sexual capability I spent a long time looking for the perfect mate. But when I finally found her, the problem turned out to be that she was looking for the same thing. Instead of denying facts and bitching about how unrealistic and materialistic I am, why don't you take a look at yourselves and make necessary changes, because like or not, these criterias are what most women are looking for. If anything, I'm doing you all a favor by giving you a female perspective on what we're looking for in a soulmate and you'all should thank me. On the day that I start complaining about how there aren't any suitable women out there, and how women should all thank me for my male perspective and change themselves to become beautiful, wealthy, emotionally stable, intelligent, sexy, and unconditionally adoring, then you can bring me back to reality by giving me the advice above to change myself .
IrishCarBomb Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 If anything, I'm doing you all a favor by giving you a female perspective on what we're looking for in a soulmate and you'all should thank me. Part of being a well-balanced guy is calling a girl out when she's stepping over the line. You are free to vent your frustrations, and I sympathize with the struggle, but I am not your doormat. You are not doing anybody any favors here, you are venting. Don't do it under the pretext of "helping out us clueless men".
Star Gazer Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 If you say so, lol. She had the interest first, she just needs to take care of business at home. Besides, I can't help who I am attracted to -- or who is attracted to me anymore than I can control what kind of foods I like! But -- I still lub ya, SG You've been interested in her for a YEAR. She had interest first? Really? No, you struck when you had the chance. You may not control who you're attracted to, but you CAN control your actions. People in long-term relationships are often attracted to other people, only difference is a decent person NEVER acts on it. "Look, but don't touch." But here? YOU chose to make your interest known, and YOU kissed her. Honesty, CG... I've never been more disappointed in an LSer in all my time here.
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 You've been interested in her for a YEAR. She had interest first? Really? No, you struck when you had the chance. You may not control who you're attracted to, but you CAN control your actions. People in long-term relationships are often attracted to other people, only difference is a decent person NEVER acts on it. "Look, but don't touch." But here? YOU chose to make your interest known, and YOU kissed her. Honesty, CG... I've never been more disappointed in an LSer in all my time here. There's already a thread on this, you don't need to bring it up in each thread he posts in.
Star Gazer Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 This thread is about men, so let's just stay on track with that. In my book (and probably most women's), a well balance man will need to have: Physical Attractiveness Good Income Matured behavior/responsible/emotionally stable Unconditional love Intelligence Sexual capability Now, as ridiculous as this list may sound to most men here (which just proves my point ), it is really meant to find a man who will be a good father and husband. But still, there are very few men out there right now who can meet these very simple requirements. And still in those very few, we have some who are too old to date, married, or in long term relationships. I didn't think this simple fact would be so hard to digest. When I think of a well-balanced man, I do not think of the above qualities. So Shygirl, you don't speak for every woman.
Star Gazer Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 There's already a thread on this, you don't need to bring it up in each thread he posts in. Posts don't exist in a vacuum. It's completely relevant to the subject of this thread. He's claiming he himself is "well-balanced." I challenge that.
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 When I think of a well-balanced man, I do not think of the above qualities. So Shygirl, you don't speak for every woman. I said MOST women.
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 I said MOST women. ^ most UNBALANCED women
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