Shygirl15 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Dating is becoming boring, boring, boring with each passing day .. Appears like well balanced men do not exist anymore, unless you want to date their fathers. They're either: - clingy/needy or emotionally guarded - bad boy/cocky types or doormats - totally clueless or think they know too much This is all there's left ladies, so take you pick!
joshaz Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Well-balanced sounds boring... Me... I'm an assassin... How YOU doin?
CaliGuy Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Dating is becoming boring, boring, boring with each passing day .. Appears like well balanced men do not exist anymore, unless you want to date their fathers. They're either: - clingy/needy or emotionally guarded - bad boy/cocky types or doormats - totally clueless or think they know too much This is all there's left ladies, so take you pick! Well balanced men DO exist. Well, if they've read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" (Glover) then they know what being a well balanced man is all about. Nice when he should be. Mean when he should be. Never too far from center (GOOD) at all times. It's just being aware of your situation and acting accordingly. Art Critic is a good example of well balanced. I'm about as close as I can get. I'm not a door mat anymore (took a while to get over that) and I'm not a jerk. You just have to weed them out. Good, strong, well-balanced men are out there if you know what to look for.
Star Gazer Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Art Critic is a good example of well balanced. Art's a poor example - he's taken! What good does a taken person do us? We're not you!
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Being the perpetual optimist that I am, I'd like to think that there are TONS of well-adjusted/well-balanced men but it's just that I have YET to date one!!!!! Dating is becoming boring, boring, boring with each passing day .. Appears like well balanced men do not exist anymore, unless you want to date their fathers. They're either: - clingy/needy or emotionally guarded - bad boy/cocky types or doormats - totally clueless or think they know too much This is all there's left ladies, so take you pick!
DeePee Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 The same holds true for women. Sheesh. Well balanced women don't exist either. - clingy/needy or emotionally guarded - b*tchy types or too cutsey - totally clueless or think they know too much Men have to make a pick from that? AND we're expect to do the leg work in the relationship. That's right, we have that to work with, and we have to do the courting, chasing, keep things interesting, yada yada yada. It's no wonder guys deviated towards one end of the spectrum. Hah!
konfuzd Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I truly believe that wading through the pool of losers (aka-the shallow end of the gene pool) allows you to truly appriciate a nice, well balanced guy when you meet one. They are out there, but are a rare gem, so the ones who snag them don't often let them go. Good luck, don't give up hope!
Rooster_DAR Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 The same holds true for women. Sheesh. Well balanced women don't exist either. - clingy/needy or emotionally guarded - b*tchy types or too cutsey - totally clueless or think they know too much Men have to make a pick from that? AND we're expect to do the leg work in the relationship. That's right, we have that to work with, and we have to do the courting, chasing, keep things interesting, yada yada yada. It's no wonder guys deviated towards one end of the spectrum. Hah! You forgot the most prominent feature: Drama Queen And not be left out, Self AbsorbedNarcissistic The women I keep encountering usually have one or all of the above characteristics.
tanbark813 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I'm very well-balanced. I almost never tip over.
fral945 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Appears like well balanced men do not exist anymore, unless you want to date their fathers. So you admit there are well balanced men. They just don't meet all of your criteria. Welcome to the real world. You can't have it all.
Vertex Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I'm not quite balanced *yet* but I'm sure as hell getting there. Basically my transition "to the middle" involves being mean when I have to. I've basically spent a large amount of time as a doormat. However, people respect you more when you stand up for yourself.
TudorII Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I would add that the right women is often the key to a well balanced man. While they must stand alone as good, well balanced men the right women will allow them to be a better man than they ever could on their own. The right woman gives the motivation and drive to be a better man. So just the be the right woman and your problem is solved.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 So you admit there are well balanced men. They just don't meet all of your criteria. Welcome to the real world. You can't have it all. Well, you misconstrued her words. She NEVER said THEY DON'T exist, she's talking about well balanced men that she could date, and I doubt these guys' fathers are in her dating age range! lol
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I would add that the right women is often the key to a well balanced man. While they must stand alone as good, well balanced men the right women will allow them to be a better man than they ever could on their own. The right woman gives the motivation and drive to be a better man. So just the be the right woman and your problem is solved. Well that's one school of thought, but the other is that people only change or mature or whatever term you want to use, at their OWN pace and WHEN they want to! Dating isn't a project in the sense that you meet someone and try to fix them or change them. If he is not well-adjusted when you meet him, why try to change him (or her). It's unfair both to you and to them!
fral945 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Well, you misconstrued her words. She NEVER said THEY DON'T exist, she's talking about well balanced men that she could date, and I doubt these guys' fathers are in her dating age range! lol I didn't misconstrue, just needling a bit. I though women liked older men for that reason anyways? FWIW, I have the same problem with women. I know and have met many well balanced women, they just tend to be older and not women I would date because they aren't physically attractive enough to me (or remind me too much of my mother, lol). That's just the reality, young people generally aren't balanced. I look at single people my age around me (20s and early 30s) and I view most of them as unbalanced. Their lives are always in some sort of chaos or disorder. Not many have long term potential. OTOH, I feel like I've been balanced and boring for years. The good news is the older I get the more balanced those around my age will be (hopefully, lol). I've already noticed more in the past few years, and hopefully the trend will continue.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 That's just the reality, young people generally aren't balanced. I look at single people my age around me (20s and early 30s) and I view most of them as unbalanced. Their lives are always in some sort of chaos or disorder. Not many have long term potential. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I don't find well-balanced boring!!! lol Good for you actually! I do agree with you about being well-balanced in that sense. I think ShyGirl is talking about extremes, but I've dated some very established young men, in their mid 20's, etc., who are very educated and have great careers, but you're right, something is sorta off balance, whether they aren't ready to get into relationships - are at the point in their lives where they work hard and play hard and have no time to maintain, sustain, or develop relationships, or perhaps they are not at the age where they know themselves well enough to even know WHAT they want! Same for the girls! I do think we get more balanced as we age. Several years ago I was that "all over the place" girl who didn't know what she wanted, was more into her hobbies and having fun then wanting a serious relationship, yet, that was when all the quality, well-adjusted men flocked to me!!!! And NOW, I'm open to something more serious and looking for those well adjusted men, and I'm meeting tons of guys who don't want anything serious or know what they want!!! Go figure, right?! lol Maybe you're right, that's life, you don't always get what you want!
monkey00 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Are you sure that's what you want? Most of the time when people want something and get it, they don't necessarily want it. Maybe you just need to find a typical bad boy and have him as your fix up project!
fral945 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I don't find well-balanced boring!!! lol Good for you actually! I'm 28 (nearing 29). And yes, most women that I date (early to mid 20s) don't consider me exciting enough. I know this because I've been told on several occasions to "loosen up a bit!" or "have more fun!" by them. Never been told that I'm fun or exciting (though I do get other compliments). I think some of them like the other qualities about me and hope they can change me in that respect. Maybe they can, IDK. I actually did have a date with a woman whom I thought was very balanced. The problem was she was old enough to be my mother.
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Well balanced? Does that mean each shoulder is well proportioned or something? hmmm.... strange concept, male, well balanced...if you do come across one, it's probably because you haven't seen through the "well balanced" act.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Well balanced? Does that mean each shoulder is well proportioned or something? hmmm.... strange concept, male, well balanced...if you do come across one, it's probably because you haven't seen through the "well balanced" act. Hahahaha, the last guy I met I found to be the most "well balanced guy" I have met in a long time!!! Turns out he was also great at PRETENDING to be well-balanced!!!! So there's that problem too.....lol
CaliGuy Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Art's a poor example - he's taken! What good does a taken person do us? We're not you! Well I am well balanced and single and have noticed the increased interest from women all over the place. All you have to do is be confident and comfortable with yourself and that will exude interest from the opposite sex. Just be happy and fun to be around. Who can resist that?!
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Well you can be well-balanced and still have fun! And you don't need to be dating women your mother's age to find well balanced women! lol Maybe instead of dating women in their early to mid 20's, try women in their late 20's to early 30s!!! I consider myself pretty well balanced, and I'm 29, but being that I look young, it seems like all the guys who approach me are in their early to mid 20's MAX!!!! I even went out with one whom I later found to be only 20 years old!!!!! Ok, but that's a whole other story!!!! lol I'm 28 (nearing 29). And yes, most women that I date (early to mid 20s) don't consider me exciting enough. I know this because I've been told on several occasions to "loosen up a bit!" or "have more fun!" by them. Never been told that I'm fun or exciting (though I do get other compliments). I think some of them like the other qualities about me and hope they can change me in that respect. Maybe they can, IDK. I actually did have a date with a woman whom I thought was very balanced. The problem was she was old enough to be my mother.
CaliGuy Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Hahahaha, the last guy I met I found to be the most "well balanced guy" I have met in a long time!!! Turns out he was also great at PRETENDING to be well-balanced!!!! So there's that problem too.....lol Like I said, you gotta weed them out. It's how they act OVER TIME that matters, not in the moment.
Star Gazer Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Well I am well balanced and single and have noticed the increased interest from women all over the place. Personally, I don't think it's well balanced to be so...arrogant (for lack of a better word), or to maintain deep interest in a taken woman. But to each their own.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 Like I said, you gotta weed them out. It's how they act OVER TIME that matters, not in the moment. You are absolutely correct!!! I did date the guy for 6 weeks, but it was a once a week thing where we mostly just went out and had fun on the town, so that probably didn't count for much "getting to know each other" time! Eh, I'm not good at this dating thing, but nice thing about dating is that you learn relatively quickly after each experience on how to proceed with the next person who comes along!
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