monkey5 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 It seems like guys all use the same flirting techniques whenever they are pursuing a woman.... -taking things that belong to her -lame jokes -asking the same question repetitively (saying "How are you doing?! every. single. time. you. see. her. -playing pranks now I'm pretty cool with all of those things...but after a while, it gets to the point of a.) when he takes something that is mine, I can't help but think: "he'll give it back any second" b.) when he tells a joke I've heard before, it's hard not to roll my eyes, c.) getting sick of answering the question (or even, getting asked in general) with the same reply, and d.) the pranks get really, really old after a while... Maybe this is why I'm still single by choice...I don't know if anyone else gets bored with the same things. I'm flattered, yet at the same time, I'm just wishing for something original to come along.
Shygirl15 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I have never had guys do such things to me. I swear.
Author monkey5 Posted October 22, 2008 Author Posted October 22, 2008 It's more like different kinds of flirtatious teasing...but it gets a little bit old after a while. I'd rather be taken seriously....especially in the workplace.
CaliGuy Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Depends on the mental age of the guy who is flirting with you. That's not how men flirt. That is how BOYS flirt.
BrooklynBridge Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 It seems like guys all use the same flirting techniques whenever they are pursuing a woman.... -taking things that belong to her -lame jokes -asking the same question repetitively (saying "How are you doing?! every. single. time. you. see. her. -playing pranks now I'm pretty cool with all of those things...but after a while, it gets to the point of a.) when he takes something that is mine, I can't help but think: "he'll give it back any second" b.) when he tells a joke I've heard before, it's hard not to roll my eyes, c.) getting sick of answering the question (or even, getting asked in general) with the same reply, and d.) the pranks get really, really old after a while... Maybe this is why I'm still single by choice...I don't know if anyone else gets bored with the same things. I'm flattered, yet at the same time, I'm just wishing for something original to come along. I'm a guy and thankfully, I've not only never heard of these lame "techniques" but certainly never employed them. Had I, that would have rendered my goals of the woman be interested in me totally nill.
fral945 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I don't know any guys who play pranks or take things from a woman to flirt with her. So do you think a guy who is an original flirt be better boyfriend material?
Stockalone Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 -taking things that belong to her -lame jokes -asking the same question repetitively (saying "How are you doing?! every. single. time. you. see. her. -playing pranks That's the kind of stuff I used to do to get back at my younger sister when she was getting on my nerves.
Trimmer Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Depends on the mental age of the guy who is flirting with you. That's not how men flirt. That is how BOYS flirt. My thought exactly....
Yamaha Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Many of these guys get their material from the dating guru's and books. They tell them to be funny and cocky, be argumentive, be a take charge kind of guy. In other words it is all about the pick up and developing attraction for the short term but they teach you nothing for the long term. This is why girls get bored once the guy runs out of his bag of tricks.
carhill Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 IME, the flirting really becomes fun when you've known someone for awhile and get each other. Your lips say one thing (often humorous insults or sarcasm) but your eyes share the truth. I'll join those in opining that men do not flirt in the way of the OP's suggested techniques.
DaisyBelle Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I don't know how old these guys are that you're discussing, but that's typical juvenile guy behavior (as other guys have noted). It's just inexperience. They don't know what to do, so they reach for lame methods. When they get older, they'll (hopefully) have some more experience and eliminate these tactics. In the meantime, if you're sick of their approach but want to encourage it (I can't tell if that's what you want, or if you just want them to go away), why not help them? Initiate the conversations yourself, or give them a new topic to discuss beyond the "hi, how are you?" (e.g., if you're, say, into swimming, mention that and they'll latch onto that for the next conversation).
MrMe Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 -asking the same question repetitively (saying "How are you doing?! every. single. time. you. see. her. Uhh...i thought that was just being polite
prettybaby Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Are we talking about high school boys? lol Because that's how boys used to approach me when I was a teenager, but grown men definitely play it better. And what's wrong with people asking how you're doing when they see you? LOL!!
XuserX Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 would you prefer "wanna go half's on a bastard child?" or your hot we should date. lol sorry couldn't resist
MrMe Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 would you prefer "wanna go half's on a bastard child?" or your hot we should date. lol sorry couldn't resist Hey, the first one's never failed me!!! LOL..jk.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Many of these guys get their material from the dating guru's and books. They tell them to be funny and cocky, be argumentive, be a take charge kind of guy. In other words it is all about the pick up and developing attraction for the short term but they teach you nothing for the long term. This is why girls get bored once the guy runs out of his bag of tricks. OMG, I dated a guy recently who, when I didn't kiss him good night on the first date said, "Your kissing skills need improving!" and then winked at me!!! Then he asked me if my hair color was REAL....then would disagree with everything I said, but then other times, totally agree on the same subject! When we went out, he would pretend to be more interested in everything else except me, and he would go on and on about how exciting his life was and how so many people wanted to hang out with him and he told me I should be flattered b/c He doesn't "hang out with people who aren't cool or interesting!" I thought I had taken one of the pills from the Matrix since this guy was straight up escapee from a psycho ward and had a multiple personality and that only one of his personalities liked me, but then I found out he had taken seminars from one of those self proclaimed MASTER PICKUP ARTISTS, you know, the ones who dressed like they were going to drag queen or magicians conventions who teach guys to "neg" women (putting them down in a somewhat playful manner) so that they can DHV (display higher value) to make the girl pursue them!!!! Boy oh boy!!! I never fell for his bag 'o tricks, I was just more CONFUSED! lol I thought he was not into me, but then he would kinda freak out when I figured he wasn't interested - so turns out he was using these flirtation/"seduction" techniques to play games... And when I found that out, it was like ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!??? Just be yourselves, guys, seriously!!!!
sumdude Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 It seems like guys all use the same flirting techniques whenever they are pursuing a woman.... -taking things that belong to her -lame jokes -asking the same question repetitively (saying "How are you doing?! every. single. time. you. see. her. -playing pranks Maybe this is why I'm still single by choice...I don't know if anyone else gets bored with the same things. I'm flattered, yet at the same time, I'm just wishing for something original to come along. Most of that is lame.. other than "How are you doing?" That's a question I ask my good freinds and family when I see them. I suppose something like what you see in a movie perhaps?
Author monkey5 Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 I have no problem with them asking how I am doing- it's polite, friendly, and appreciated....but it's weird when they ask it every 5 minutes. Or whenever they see me- meaning that I've changed rooms for a short amount of time and came back. Maybe they just have socialization issues. I'm really not good at knowing when an older guy is actually hitting on me- but, the things listed are the ones I have picked up on (the ages range from 19 years-early 30s)...I don't know if they think it's "cute" or what...but it's old- yet I hate feeling so jaded over it. I like friendly, playful guys- but even I have to draw the line somewhere.
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 I'm really not good at knowing when an older guy is actually hitting on me- . Hmm, I wonder what your own flirting technique is like
samspade Posted October 23, 2008 Posted October 23, 2008 I've never thought about it, but "how are you doing" is a lazy fallback question. Out of the things you listed, I'm sure this is one that I do without thinking about it. I'm going to think of 5-10 imaginative questions to ask women when I run into them to avoid this stupid question. So do you think a guy who is an original flirt be better boyfriend material? Yes, of course he will. A natural flirt will flirt with you after the honeymoon's over. Being a flirt is a state of mind - I keep the switch on and flirt (harmlessly) with females across the board, from old women to young girls. (I said harmlessly - nothing dirty, so don't call me a perv. You know what I mean.) Flirting keeps things interesting.
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