Second chance and dumped again!!

[L-FUZZ]

this might be long, sorry in advance..

Its already been about 4 months since he broke up with me for the second time. We were together total of 3 years. I was completly in love with him. He was my home. But he has locked me out again. Im 30 he is 35.

 

He broke up with me on the phone(10 min. convo) while sitting on a plane(going to london for four days) while the flight attendent was telling him he needed to turn his phone off. I had know idea it was coming. His conversation went like this..oh and he had just left my apt two hours before.. kissing me good bye and he'd call me later when he got into london.

I got this phone call instead... I picked up the phone

He said twice that he didnt want to do this "I dont want to do this, i dont want to do this" and then he said he was calling to break up with me. I was just saying shutup! shutup, what?

Then he gave me a list of reasons he said," #1 financial differences #2 ...I cant rememeber what he said because #3 was he cheated on me about a month before and that it was a one time thing.

I asked him with who and where? he said with an ex while he was visiting his home state.. i never got a chance to ask if he was leaving me for who ever this ex was. ( Its driving me nutz lately thinking about it!) During all this i was freaking out screaming on the phone NO NO NO and that' s all i could really muster out of myself except i think i threatened him with your not going to get away with this, not this time! Hah! I dont know what i meant by that but whatever,,, i was a mess:sick: Then! out of all the things to say to someone after you've ripped their heart out and ran over it with a hundred semi trucks.. he then ends the conversation with I love you and I will miss you!! I couldn't say anything, then he hung up. That was it.

 

I couldn't believe my ears!!! Mind you, i had a feeling something had happened during the last month of us together and i straight out asked him if he had slept with someone alse and 3 different times he flat out said No. The last time i asked him he even said" no i did not, please let this go". I was feeling like a crazy person and believed him and felt bad for being that paranoid, suspicious girlfriend... During that month while i felt crazy it seemed like he kept reassuring me everything was fine. two nights before he broke up with me he was talking about planning a trip to mexico together ,,, the day before he broke up with me he kept kissing me and even called me from his work too tell me how he was looking at the picture of us on his desk and just wanted to call and tell me how pretty i am and how he couldnt wait to hang out later that evening... it made me feel wonderful:D

 

Here is where I went wrong, Later that night when we did meet up for dinner,, everything was going nicely .. untill he kept checking out this girl sitting next to me,,, i let it go at first but then he kept going back to looking at her.(like i said i was feeling super suspicious).. i waited till we left and once we got into the taxi, I kinda went off on him for checking out another girl so blatently in front of me and what does that mean he is doing when im not around... and all that. He said i was being insecure and that he needed a secure girlfrined and that he was just looking at her because she was interesting looking.. this argument went on,, and then i dropped it for awhile, but I held a grudge the rest the night,, he even apoligized and i just pulled away. This went on till the point were he said he was" Done!" and that he was going home and that i should just go home to. I didnt want this so finally he went home with me. I dont remember what was said in the car home(we had been drinking). But i thought everything was fine. Untill i got the phone call the next day.

 

Soo, here I am, I guess im just confuzed.. He told me he cheated on me.. but i feel like im at fault here(maybe i was to paranoid).. the whole relationship ended so quickly and i dont know why he didnt tell me the truth when i asked him that whole month and let me decide what to do with the relationship.. why did he wait to tell me after he broke up with me that he cheated? what is the point of that? why did he act like everything was fine with us right up to that argument?

these questions are keeping me from moving on. I am doing much better now but every morning i have these questions... and also did he break up with me because of guilt? or that he really feel's someone is better for him out there and didnt want to deal with his actions of cheating? Is he a commitment phobe? Ugh i feel like i need more closure then he gave me..

 

p.s. I sent him an email a week after the break asking to talk on the phone so i could ask some of these questions that would help me digest the breakup and he responed this,,, i dont think it would be good to meet up for it would only prolong the inevitable,, lets meet up in six months.. your a wonderful person you deserve a great guy i dont want to waste your time you should be spending finding your match... talk to you in six months,,,

i havent talked to him since,,,, NC for almost 4 months

 

 

Why did he bother saying lets meet up in 6 months... its all messing with me. It was such a horrible breakup! i feel like he ran away from his own feelings..

maybe you guys could help me out?

thankyou for reading- LFUZZ

[BCCA]

To me, this sounds like a breakup that was in the works for a while. I'm going to assume he broke up with you both times, tell me if thats wrong.

 

What usually happens when people get back together is that the dumper has probably rushed to see what else was out there, came up empty handed, and decided that the person they just dumped was better than nobody or that they would rather keep this person around than to let them find someone else first. It's almost always 100% selfish, they aren't thinking of you or the two of you, its all whats good for them right now.

 

Then, they act the way they normally would because they know that doing so is going to give you the feeling that things are back to normal. You'll begin to overlook little things here and there, because you wanted to get back together, and thats as far ahead as you thought.

 

Eventually, whatever caused the breakup resurfaces. We all try and think things through, but many times, the dumper never really gave you the whole truth, so what you think the problems are might not be the whole story. And people tend to pick very vague reasons, as they tend to be easier to say than specific ones, so you could very well have never gotten even half of the truth.

 

Past behavior is a good indication of future behavior. He cheated on you. He didnt have an IM fling, or send naughty pictures to someone across the country, he went to his ex and had sex with her. Thats not drunken hook up sex, thats going back to someone you had a meaningful relationship with and getting way too comfortable. Is this a one time thing? You'll just never know. The fact that he denied it is also pretty telling. He lied to you and made you feel like a crazy person, when he was in fact that one that was full of it.

 

Then we get to the actual breakup. I had the same thing happen to me, although a little different, but I was with someone 4.5 years and they called me at work in the middle of the day and dumped me. Don't sugar coat it, that is cold hearted and disrespectful. Take a good look, all that time you spent together, and all you got was a phone call and a bunch of BS. That should tell you everything about this guy you need to know.

 

I just went through the same thing, got back together, and got dumped again, and all I can say is do NOT let it happen a 3rd time. Avoid this guy like the plague, you dont want to hear from him in 6 months or 6 decades, he's dead to you. He's not going to do anything for you anymore, hes a cheater, and you deserve much better than that from someone who says they love you (which Im hoping you can see is BS).

 

You ran into one of the worlds many sh**heads, it happens to the best of us. Just cast him out of your life, for good, and get back to being yourself.

[L-FUZZ]

hey thanks Bcca,

i guess you do know what im feeling then,, sorry to hear you had a similar scenerio. i guess im embarassed and feel like a fool and just cant believe he's thrown all that we had away,,, or atleast what i thought we had...

 

and yes he broke it off both times... first time was after a year or more of dating(no real reason but it was after a silly fight) and then apart four months little bit of contact and then back together a year and 6 months.

is this someone that is incapable of long term relationships or is it just me that they were not happy with... Bcca did you ever talk with him again about why he broke up with you ? was there cheating involved? do you think the guilt that a cheater feels can run them off from the relationship enough that they dont feel anything would work to heal the hurt one...so cut and run while they can... is that possible?

 

i have to go off to work but i hope i hear more about all this and will reply when i can..

[sacg]

Top response BCCA, helped me.

[BCCA]

hey thanks Bcca,

i guess you do know what im feeling then,, sorry to hear you had a similar scenerio. i guess im embarassed and feel like a fool and just cant believe he's thrown all that we had away,,, or atleast what i thought we had...

 

and yes he broke it off both times... first time was after a year or more of dating(no real reason but it was after a silly fight) and then apart four months little bit of contact and then back together a year and 6 months.

is this someone that is incapable of long term relationships or is it just me that they were not happy with... Bcca did you ever talk with him again about why he broke up with you ? was there cheating involved? do you think the guilt that a cheater feels can run them off from the relationship enough that they dont feel anything would work to heal the hurt one...so cut and run while they can... is that possible?

 

i have to go off to work but i hope i hear more about all this and will reply when i can..

 

Heh, well my ex is a girl, and I'm a guy But to answer your question, I tried to talk to her about why we were breaking up both times, but all I got was vague 'im just not happy' 'i dont think we were meant for eachother' crap, so to be honest I dont really know what her deal was. There was no cheating involved, at least that I know of. Cheating isnt something that accidentally happens or is unavoidable. The guy made a concious decision to risk losing you for a roll in the hay with an ex.

 

As far as whether he is able to have a long term relationship, he was with you for a while, so he definitely is, but what basically happened is that he said to himself "its not worth the effort required, to me, to keep this relationship going". Does that mean he'll meet someone else and change his mind? Possibly, but who cares about him or what he does. YOU are a good person, and relationship material, so sooner or later you'll find someone else who is the same way.

[L-FUZZ]

he he ! whoops sorry Bcca .. missed the part that you are a guy.

 

i know its been awhile since my breakup but sickly enough i know im waiting to see if he keeps his word about the 6 months thing,,, god im a dip for thinking he would give me a chance to ask him questions.. and get out what i wish i could have on that phone convo. 4 months ago.

 

ok this time i really got to go to work,, im a bartender.

[BCCA]

he he ! whoops sorry Bcca .. missed the part that you are a guy.

 

i know its been awhile since my breakup but sickly enough i know im waiting to see if he keeps his word about the 6 months thing,,, god im a dip for thinking he would give me a chance to ask him questions.. and get out what i wish i could have on that phone convo. 4 months ago.

 

ok this time i really got to go to work,, im a bartender.

 

Trust me, the 6 months bit was just a way to put you off. If you did talk to him again, I can promise you it wont be about you two or the breakup. He might try and make chit chat (which, honestly, I wouldnt count on - you probably wont hear from him again), but if you pressed him about what you two were supposed to talk about, he'll bail or make excuses about why he cant right now.

 

If youre looking for the reasons he broke up with you, again, he'll NEVER give you the whole truth. If he wanted to do that, you would know right now. And beyond that, what difference will it make anyways? The most important thing is that you two are not together anymore, why is irrelevant.

 

I would live my life as though this guy was never going to be seen or heard from again. Truth be told, if you never heard from him again, it would be the best thing for you. Don't keep people around like this, he just doesnt have your best interests in mind.

 

Where is your bar at, I could always go for a drink!

[L-FUZZ]

Hey, back from work..Bcca i work in nyc... you live int these parts?

hey how long was you relationship when she broke it off with you and when did it happen to you ? you seem to be doing pretty well with advice on these boards..

 

What do you mean exactly..with the 6 months thing was just away to put me off? to keep me hanging in the backburner as to come back if he felt or just to avoid any further emotional talks?

 

Why and how are people capable of letting go of all that you worked for in that relationship? none of it makes sense to me .. still even to this day i cant believe he doesnt miss me,,, i just cant believe it.. because I damn well was there for him all through his ups and downs of starting a business and let him cry on my shoulder when he thought all of his hard work to starting a business was not going to be a successful overall operation.. i was there when he started making his money and there helping him brain storm and there helping him laugh in the morning while he typed away on his little computer.. trying to give him some relief of constant work! Heck! I was practically his only real friend besides his family that he could truely trust that wasnt out for some business deal. to be honest thou sometimes i felt like his secretary..as far as making plans and what not.. even travel plans and other odds and ends. Not typing:D. i was so damn patient... for he worked so much everything we did was on a time schedule and he was out of town alot.. and i was fine with that. something not most people could deal with.

I thought i was something he could not ever abandon again and yet here the hell i am again!

I am alone trying to deal with these unresolved questions. he is not here for me when i need him the most for answers and i know Bcca that his answers wont change anything. but my brain has become stuck. like a record player. i better go to sleep im on a tangent...

[Sysyphus28]

I heard the same line by line crap. I'm just not happy.......blah, blah, blah.

 

It is so textbook. I have been NC for 6 weeks.

Why do I still feel like talking to her. I have been out dating plenty, and I am going out and having fun with friends.......I still feel her betrayal like a knife.

[BCCA]

Hey, back from work..Bcca i work in nyc... you live int these parts?

hey how long was you relationship when she broke it off with you and when did it happen to you ? you seem to be doing pretty well with advice on these boards..

 

What do you mean exactly..with the 6 months thing was just away to put me off? to keep me hanging in the backburner as to come back if he felt or just to avoid any further emotional talks?

 

Why and how are people capable of letting go of all that you worked for in that relationship? none of it makes sense to me .. still even to this day i cant believe he doesnt miss me,,, i just cant believe it.. because I damn well was there for him all through his ups and downs of starting a business and let him cry on my shoulder when he thought all of his hard work to starting a business was not going to be a successful overall operation.. i was there when he started making his money and there helping him brain storm and there helping him laugh in the morning while he typed away on his little computer.. trying to give him some relief of constant work! Heck! I was practically his only real friend besides his family that he could truely trust that wasnt out for some business deal. to be honest thou sometimes i felt like his secretary..as far as making plans and what not.. even travel plans and other odds and ends. Not typing:D. i was so damn patient... for he worked so much everything we did was on a time schedule and he was out of town alot.. and i was fine with that. something not most people could deal with.

I thought i was something he could not ever abandon again and yet here the hell i am again!

I am alone trying to deal with these unresolved questions. he is not here for me when i need him the most for answers and i know Bcca that his answers wont change anything. but my brain has become stuck. like a record player. i better go to sleep im on a tangent...

 

I live in CA, clear accross the country

 

What I meant was that he doesn't want to talk to you at all about the relationship, etc. By putting you off, he's hoping that in 6 months you will have forgotten about it or are no longer interested in talking. I really don't think he has any intention of trying to talk to you in 2 more months.

 

When people have decided that you are no longer worth the effort, they just stop caring about you and the relationship all together. I'm sure in the bottom of his heart, he still has some loving feelings for you, but hes decided that you're not the right one for him. I know all too well the feeling of abandonment, you just feel so betrayed and dissapointed that someone could treat you this way. At the end of the day, though, you just have to scrape yourself up and push forward. It starts with letting go, accepting that things are over, and preparing yourself for the very real possibility that you could never hear from him again. Time will heal all your wounds if you let it.

[BCCA]

I heard the same line by line crap. I'm just not happy.......blah, blah, blah.

 

It is so textbook. I have been NC for 6 weeks.

Why do I still feel like talking to her. I have been out dating plenty, and I am going out and having fun with friends.......I still feel her betrayal like a knife.

 

Its a classic vague statement that really gives you no info at all. If anything, it leaves you even more confused and desperate for answers. Thats why you still feel like talking to her. You feel like you never got straight answers (which you didnt) and that she at least owes you some honesty (which she does). Problem is, you're never going to hear anything that you want from her. She doesn't want to be the bad guy, so guess what? Everything is all your fault and she doesnt owe you anything, in her mind.

[L-FUZZ]

Yah bcca Cali would be a lil far to come out for a drink..

 

im just venting here anyone have any comments feel free ... love to hear anyone elses story or whatevers...

 

Last time i was dumped by him it was around this amount of time that i reached out to him and texted him a casual remark and he instantly replied and THAT is what set our "second chance" in motion.. granted we still didnt meet up for another month or so.

I just remember how excited i was thinking i got him back! i knew he was the one..i was so elated!!! i played the whole thing so cool and never talk about the relationship until after a few dates together. We communicated openly and clearly about what it meant that we were getting back together... he mentioned that it meant the road to marriage...(hah!) i guess he forgot saying that...

 

a week before we broke up ,,, i had a convo with him about making sure we were moving forward(because we had been having a rough patch that last month) and making sure he still wanted to move in together when my lease was up which was 6 months back then.. coming up soon..

 

He replied yes we are moving forward and you can still move in when your lease is up..but he said he had reservations about our financial differences..

that threw me for a surprise i was truely hurt that he said something like that to me... I was like what do you want me to do ? Go play the lottery and hope i win.. and then you will feel ok with me?? i was so pissed off but he said he didnt mean it like that.. i was like i feel like i should break up with you over that comment and then i asked are you going to break up with me over this? he said i was making a big deal about it... he sugaar coated me up and i let it go..

 

A week later that was his #1 reason for breaking up with me!!! damn me! i should have dumped his ass there on the spot... but no i was afraid of losing him!

 

has anyone been dumped over "financial reasons" like this before? i mean i completly support myself in nyc ,,, i may not be swimming in money. But come on.. i am completly independent. he recently started making CEo money and sometime's i wonder if it got to his head...and he left me in the dust after i helped him emotionally all through the start of his business..and unto its success.

[lofi_tokyo]

When people have decided that you are no longer worth the effort, they just stop caring about you and the relationship all together. I'm sure in the bottom of his heart, he still has some loving feelings for you, but hes decided that you're not the right one for him. I know all too well the feeling of abandonment, you just feel so betrayed and dissapointed that someone could treat you this way. At the end of the day, though, you just have to scrape yourself up and push forward. It starts with letting go, accepting that things are over, and preparing yourself for the very real possibility that you could never hear from him again. Time will heal all your wounds if you let it.

 

I really liked that post BCCA! Well said, and very true.

[BCCA]

If youre comfortable telling me, what financial differences is he reffering to? Is it because he makes more than you? Do you have a lot of debt/bad credit?

 

If its just the disparity in salaries, thats craziness. What man would care how much the women he loved made if they were able to live happily? If you two were strapped for cash, and you weren't working at all, thats a different story. Me, personally, I wouldnt care if my girlfriend worked at McDonalds, so long as she was happy with what she did and I made enough to keep us out of financial troubles.

[L-FUZZ]

He is a CEO of his own company... he just started getting paid ceo money since April after he had a big company invest into his business and that is around the time he started hinting around my plans of my future and my art. But i did not think it was some test of our relationshiip..

yes im am comfortable telling you my financial area I have Ok credit, No debt. except for student loans.. but i pay my monthly dues.. im actually pretty good at managing money. Mostly my money goes to rent and a standard living..NyC is not easy on the money as far as rent and i live by myself. Part to do with him.. might i add.

i think he was worried that because im trying to be an artist, that eventually makes money off of my art... that what if i dont make it.... and im a bartender the rest my life,,, i guess thats what he meant.. he never exactly said that.. he was vague on the phone.. but that one conversation he seemed worried that i wasnt trying hard enough to be successful like him or something... which i am its just a different life living as an artist.. then it is a businessman.

[BCCA]

Listen, there is nothing wrong with being a bartender the rest of your life. I'm not saying give up on all your dreams and settle for that, but if thats what you chose to do to pay your bills, there is nothing wrong with that.

 

The more I've thought about it, the more it sounds like an excuse. I mean, seriously, he's going to leave you because you work as a bartender? How shallow is that? And his vague nature gives me the impression he wasn't looking to give you direct answers.

[L-FUZZ]

yes it is how i pay my bills for now . Hopefully not for ever. That is where i hope my art steps in. Yes sometime i think it was an excuse to some how justify his cheating and his guilt for ending the relationship. It seems he was finding the only things he could point his fingure at me for.

Your not as rich as me... its your fault your not successful ... your lazy (im not but got the feeling he thought i was).. therefore i dont want to share with you what ive earned. BAm!! he has some how justified it in his head.

I dont know for sure ..but money differences seemed to worry him towards the end of our relationship(out of know where). And yes its so damned shallow!! Its hard to believe im talking about someone i love. HAh!

Bcca thanks for your comments.. im off work again...

[BCCA]

Part of being in an adult relationship is being supportive and understanding of eachother, and encouraging eachother to succeed. You're not supposed to have someone there for you as long as you need, and then turn a cold shoulder to them when they need the same. And again, if you want to be a bartender your whole life, enjoy what you do, and aren't living with your parents/begging for change/ a prostitute, he should be right there giving you all the support you need. He's not, and my guess is that there is something else going on that he's not telling you.

[L-FUZZ]

OK>>> so in a round about way, you are saying that he is not really "in love" with me -ENOUGH- to deal with those $ differences.....

otherwise any man who loves his women would love her regardless her income...

 

)))Although we met because i served him as a waitress... So he should have known that i was not Bill Gates, in the start of our relationship. Why did he wait till 3 years later to break that to me?

 

It was forsure an excuse but what was he hidding??? He just wasnt that into me???

THAT IS CRAP! god i just want to ring that guys neck ,,who ever it was that wrote that book "he's just not that into you" ...

 

There is always more to a story then meets the eye... even after knowing someone for a long time... you just never know what one is really thinking...

 

"You're not supposed to have someone there for you as long as you need, and then turn a cold shoulder to them when they need the same."

 

BCCA to bad you werent there in my defence a few months ago.. funny how words dont come to you when you need them ...

[BCCA]

OK>>> so in a round about way, you are saying that he is not really "in love" with me -ENOUGH- to deal with those $ differences.....

 

No, I'm saying he's feeding you a line of bull. I highly doubt the $ has much of anything to do with it.

 

otherwise any man who loves his women would love her regardless her income...

 

Bingo! Especially if he's loved you as a bartender for 3 years, and all of a sudden, its just not up to par. Again, would you really stop loving someone over how much money they made? Petty. Shallow.

 

I think there is more going on than he is telling you about. Especially since he just told you that the money difference wasnt a big deal, then a few weeks later, listed as the #1 reason he had to breakup with you.

[L-FUZZ]

tried to do quick reply and for some reason would let me...

 

anyways.. BCCA what is it then are you trying to say.. what do think he is hidding then?

 

I wonder thou if he is truely one of those commitment phobes

or has some mental disorder i was not aware of like narsissistic or Bi-polar or some such thing as that... my ex did go to a psychologist.. once a week

 

he never talked about it with me.. but i asked why he went and he just said it was to deal with all the stresses of starting his business and all that. But he started his business years ago and is doing well now... i cant imagine that is the only reason.. but he never would open up to me anymore then that.. which always kinda bugged me...

[BCCA]

If it is indeed a mental disorder/commitment phobia, let me tell you, you cant do anything about it. Its ALL got to be on him to overcome these issues, if he wants to. Sometimes people will meet other people with even worse problems, and for whatever reason, they'll actually help eachother get past it. I dated 2 seperate girls with known disorders, and it was pure hell. They never wanted to take the blame for the problems they had, it was always easier to blame it on the relationship, they took it out on me, they never went to get help (or they would frequently miss apointments 'accidentally'), and both were just not relationship material.

 

There is no way to know what he's hiding for sure, but from my time here on LS and from my real life experiences, it generally comes down to one of a few things:

 

1. He's dating/interested in someone else.

2. He cheated on you or has been cheating on you.

3. He feels like staying with you would be 'settling' for less than he thinks he can get elsewhere.

 

There is also the very real possibility that he just doesn't want to be the bad guy, and by pointing out something (like your work) that he knows you cant fix overnight as the problem, he's made sure that he can leave you with 'good cause' in his eyes, and not feel guilty. My ex told me I didnt have a masters degree, and she didnt know if she could stay with me because of that. I make 3x as much as she did, and she barely even had enough for school without me. BUT, she knew I couldnt get that extra few years of school done overnight and then say "all done, so we're staying together now?". If you won the lotto tomorrow, it would probably be something else. It just sounds like he isnt interested, and excuses are excuses at the end of the day.

 

Be wary of people that wont tell you whats going on in their head. Usually, from my experiences, thats a pretty good sign that theyre thinking about you and its not good.

[L-FUZZ]

right ,,, right ...

 

just stuff i dont want to believe. How can anyone be better then me!!

 

 

So BCCA how long have you been in NC with your ex? do you still have urges to contact her..? has she made any efforts to contact you?

 

 

by the way i apologize for my overall poor typing /spelling ...

[BCCA]

right ,,, right ...

 

just stuff i dont want to believe. How can anyone be better then me!!

 

 

So BCCA how long have you been in NC with your ex? do you still have urges to contact her..? has she made any efforts to contact you?

 

 

by the way i apologize for my overall poor typing /spelling ...

 

Well, its the stuff that you dont want to believe thats the hardest to get through your head. No one wants to think that this person you love and says they love you would be looking elsewhere. We've all been in denial, its just so much easier. Realistically though, it doesnt matter, because they only thing that you need to know is that he wasn't the one. Why is pointless to worry about.

 

I pretty much went NC from the breakup, but had a couple somewhat forced contacts (I needed my house keys back, etc). I havent heard from her in about a month, and even the last email I got was pretty generic. I think she reached out looking for some affection, but I was very proffesional in all my responses to her (kind of like she was just someone from work) and she never responded again. Do I get urges to contact her? Sure, I'm lonely, I don't have anyone else, and I went almost 5 years of telling the same person 'I love you' before I went to bed everynight. But am I going to sacrifice my dignity for someone that tossed me aside like an empty soda can? No way.

 

I dont think anyone cares about spelling/grammar on a message forum As long as I can understand what youre saying, it doesnt matter to me.

[L-FUZZ]

i know"why" is pointless to worry about.. but its just crazy i never heard a word from him in three or more months and it all was over in a short call.

 

that is it...that was all i had. i have not seen nor heard from him. i know nothing of him and he knows nothing of me.

 

just been really hard for me to digest this all with out any more answers from him.. im stuck. i guess i got time on my side.

 

WOW second chances!! sure are awesome. hmm.

 

Five years is along time..plus you lived together. I never have gotten to a point where i've lived with someone..close but no cigar. Sounds like you are doing better. .. sorry that she never responded.. but why did you respond so generically? did you not want to hear back from her or did you ?

 

guess we will never know if an ex is going to ever contact us again

but in the mean time

im going out to some art opening

BCCA Id say come join me and my friends but your in Cali.

cheers to your friday night... and to anyone else out there feeling lonely.. were are all in the same boat...