orangehose Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 I think if he'd simply said 'we're not going back, but I want you to know, I'm sorry' it may have helped me to deal more effectively with what happened. As it is, even now, 18 months down the line, I still struggle. Yes, this is exactly the way it was / is for me. It wasn't even so much the break-up as the utter callousness of the execution. At first I was glad that my ex had been so cruel - no logical reason to pine for a guy that was nasty to you, right? But over time I realized that I felt the way you do, Chinook. Some minimal apology from him would have probably kept me from falling into complete cynicism about romance.
orangehose Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 Oh, and like the rest of you, I nearly blew my brains out trying to guess whether my ex felt any remorse (not about breaking up, but for his behavior), or how he could NOT feel remorse. I didn't reach an answer. I just gave up on it.
Ronni_W Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 the accuracy of the diagnosis, made with so little background information... Don't sell yourself short -- you're the one who provided all the background information. Best I did was to repackage it. My pleasure to be able to do that...you are most welcome . (But/so. You're all good, and ready to start forgiving yourself for letting your "Inner Bully" direct your show for a while...??? And to leave it up to her, to forgive herself about her "Inner Victim".)
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