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What I learned about infidelity on LS


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After tommorow, I'm going to try to avoid this site for a week. It's too much like an addiction. Anyways, I thought I'd write one more post about all the things I learned on LS.

 

Thank you to everyone who ever answered my posts, even the ones who gave me answers I didn't like. Thank you to all those who shared their stories, on this side and the other side. This is how I really learned the most and became the strongest.

 

1. Always trust your instincts. They are almost always right.

 

2. If you think your partner is cheating, disrespecting you, doesn't love you anymore, your most likely right. I guess this is the same as #1.

 

3. Not all cheating happens because somethings missing in a marriage. Sometimes people get boared and want something extra. Sometimes people just feel entitled. Sometimes a baby comes and one partner wants to keep their single life while the other stays home to watch the kid.

 

4. Actions speak way louder than words.

 

5. If you want to reduce your chances of bieng cheated on, don't marry someone with few relationships bounderies. They may have the best intentions not to hurt you, but will most likely put themselves in positions where it can happen easily.

 

6. If something hurts you or doesn't feel right, speak out! Holding it in will only destroy you and the marriage down the line.

 

I'm sure there's more, but I have to go now.

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actually, these are some very good pointers about relationships in general – thanks for sharing.

 

we'll miss you!

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angie, I hope that you're staying away from LS for your own reasons and not because your husband is concerned about your posting. No one spouse should try to control where the other spouse chooses to find support, as long as the support is generic and not part of an affair.

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actually, these are some very good pointers about relationships in general – thanks for sharing.

 

we'll miss you!

 

Thanks! I'll see how long I'll last. I will drop in to say congrats when one poster on here has her baby- if and when she post again.

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angie, I hope that you're staying away from LS for your own reasons and not because your husband is concerned about your posting. No one spouse should try to control where the other spouse chooses to find support, as long as the support is generic and not part of an affair.

 

My husband has complained about LS ever since I posted here. He's never read the site, though. Anyways, I just think I need to give my time to other things now and this site gets me too hooked to leave.

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My husband has complained about LS ever since I posted here. He's never read the site, though. Anyways, I just think I need to give my time to other things now and this site gets me too hooked to leave.

How can he complain about something he's never read? That's like saying that Obama's a Muslim because his middle name is Hussein...

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I did read him a couple of things regarding the situation I posted here. I think it bothered him. This was a while ago and it was just once.

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How can he complain about something he's never read?

 

Ha! Because he's a man and he can. :D

 

No worries OP. I think a break can be a healthy thing. Hope it works out for you and look forward to seeing you again in the future! :)

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Methink your husband wants you to stay away from LS.. because you might discovered a few 'tricks' cheaters have.. and he could get busted..

 

He wants to control you... and this is not good.. :o

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I learned not to repeat/share relationship stuff, just the kookier posts. I think the one about "getting all up in that goat's koolade" takes top prize :p

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How can he complain about something he's never read? That's like saying that Obama's a Muslim because his middle name is Hussein...

 

Obama WAS a Muslim

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"Was", being the operative word! ;)

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Obama WAS a Muslim
Oh, was he? When?
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Oh, was he? When?

 

no, just making reference to his "Muslim" Faux Pas the other day.. Talking about his "Muslim Faith"...

 

Let's not start a war here.. bad attempt at humor..

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no, just making reference to his "Muslim" Faux Pas the other day.. Talking about his "Muslim Faith"...

 

Let's not start a war here.. bad attempt at humor..

While I understand where you're coming from, you should read the transcript of why he said what he said. It's as usual been spun out of context.

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angie, I wish you the best in whatever goes on in your life or whatever choices you make. Your list is a good one.

 

BTW, its not a bad thing to take a break from here. :)

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While I understand where you're coming from, you should read the transcript of why he said what he said. It's as usual been spun out of context.

 

Oh, I know... That's exactly why I said it.. BUT, I know how sensitive a subject this can be and for the record, I am not an Obama basher.. I actually auditioned to be an Obama Girl... didnt make it though...

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Is bieng a Muslim so bad? I guess it is to many Americans. Oh well, I don't think it's any better or worse than bieng a Christian.

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BTW, its not a bad thing to take a break from here. :)

 

Nope, it's a good thing. This will be my third attempt to get out. It feels like I'm quitting cigarettes or something.

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Nope, it's a good thing. This will be my third attempt to get out. It feels like I'm quitting cigarettes or something.

 

In all honesty, a forum can be a good place to receive support and advice. BUT.... when it begins to feel like an addiction or that you just can't break away, then to me that is a cue that all the more reason to stay away.

 

I see so many people become dependent on this place, and to me thats not good nor healthy. While it might help for awhile, I think there are times it can begin to work against a person. So you are right in trying to stay away for a bit. Good luck to you! :)

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Nope, it's a good thing. This will be my third attempt to get out. It feels like I'm quitting cigarettes or something.

 

I understand your pain. But for me- it's either this forum or going back to watch the TV soapies.

 

See you Ang! Come back when you and hubby is ready.

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