KingCrimson Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Met this girl via a social activity back in the summer. Hung out a few times at said social meetings (happy hours with the group). She lives an hour away, and I'm busy with work and my friends here, so I'm not looking to go out with this girl. But she makes an excellent drinking buddy occasionally on the weekends and someone to kick it with from time to time. We've hung out 1 on 1, with her friends, and some of my friends about 5-6 times outside of the social group (we haven't gone to any events for a few months). I've even crashed on her couch once(we'd planned it out - i was planning on driving to her part of the city, getting drunk, and asked her if I could crash at her place), and last time we were out drinking by ourselves at a bar and parted with a platonic hug. About 3 weekends ago I give her a call/text (after not talking or hanging out with her for 2 weeks) seeing what she's up to. sounds like she's down to hang out later that night. ends up being just texting back and forth later that night, her not answering my calls, then she texts about me where I am later, not responding to my text back until the next day with a "sorry i got really screwed up". weekend after I give her a call to see what she's up to this time. no call/text back. this last weekend, i'm going to a big music festival with some friends near where she lives. give her a text the night before asking if she wants to meet up. says sure blah blah i'll definitely try to meet up with you later. I give her a call the next day after we get out. Noisy phone call that gets nowhere, she's omewhere else, might meet up with us later. So I text her a few hours later with where we are. She says she's still away at this other suburb. Hear nothing from her after that. that was the last contact with her since Saturday night. So what is going on? I literally haven't been needy or whatever - I only call/text her on the weekends, and usually only every other weekend. It just seems weird cause the last 6 times we hung out outside of the social activity, she was responsive to my calls and always came out with my/my friends or invited me to come with her/her friends.
Author KingCrimson Posted October 22, 2008 Author Posted October 22, 2008 maybe I'm overthinking this but, she really is a cool person to hang out/drink with, and one of 3 people I know who live in the downtown part of the city (I need more friends over there!)
Ronni_W Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Response to your first post: What is going on? It kinda just sounds like she is treating you exactly like any "excellent drinking buddy" would. Don't you think? Response to your second post: Are you over-thinking it, or over-feeling it? Cos now it sounds more like she's managed to wedge a piece of her excellent self someplace into your heart? What do you think? (I'd have to guess, though, that she intuited your initial desire for her to be just your "excellent drinking buddy" -- no expectations/obligations to meet up, or respond to each other's texts, or to accept each other's phone calls, or whatever. It's not "blowing the other off", it's just drinking buddy behaviour.)
carhill Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Normal casual friendship behavior. See the next name on your phone? Push that button
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