Has a guy who had a bad break up ever feel like you may never trust a woman again?

[avenger]

I wonder are there any men who feel like this? I see how women feel like they cant trust a man after something goes wrong in the relationship....

[Davey McG]

Yes, but we eventually get over it and become gradually better judges of character

 

OR

 

we get over it and make the same mistakes again

 

But yes, men do feel like this for a time and for most it passes.

[EmperorR]

My ex cheated on me how do you think infeel it's like permanently branded I'll always probably be this clingy jealous bf, and ruin any relationship.

[Sysyphus28]

Just because a girl cheated on you doesn't mean you will be permanently damaged. Life goes on man.

 

You will be ok

[Woggle]

It has happened and I still don't really trust women except for a select few.

[WiseOne1]

I Don't trust women who say they want a good man, i've heard that wayyyy to many times, those are the ones that get a good man and then run off to the bad ones.

 

I've felt that way that I cant trust a couple of women alot, but ex's like to hear stuff like that it makes them feel that no other women will never get treated as good as I got treated by him. And thats a huge ego boost for them, instead do the opposite and treat every female like a queen and then they get jelous.

 

My ex was happy when I told her that I was gonna treat every other woman like **** because you women dont deserve it, but then....I turned and said I was gonna give the new gf the world, and she started crying and told me she loved me and temporarily wanted to get back together.

[Crow9726]

I am emotionally shaken from my prior relationship.

 

Too many hidden agendas and issues for me to deal with.

 

It has left me with feelings of inadequacy, self-esteem has lowered and self confidence is at an all time low.

 

I was the rebound...the one she ran to after she finally left her abusive ex. I had rescued her from him before but she always ran back to him.

 

She pursued me...needed me and my love...played me well...though she didn't realize she was playing me. Once her need for me went away...since I was the safe choice and helped her rebuild her own self esteem and confidence...we discovered her "want" for me was never as strong as her need for me.

 

Now I feel rejected...and it will be hard work for someone else to get into my heart.

 

I trust nobody...sometimes not even myself...and that sucks for me...

[You'reasian]

I wonder are there any men who feel like this? I see how women feel like they cant trust a man after something goes wrong in the relationship....

 

You talk about a man trusting a man. I'm talking about a man trusting a woman.

 

It depends on the individual. If he has had enough quality relationships in his past, he knows he can trust a woman, even though he might have had difficulties with this in previous relationships.

 

If a man has a had a quality, loving relationship in his past with a trustworthy woman, then he know there maybe others out there like her

 

I'm getting to know some really nice women and so far, its been a pleasant experience.

[flc]

I am sure there are but it is silly in my opinion. People, men or women are individuals and each act as such. Generalizing that all women are bad because you had a bad experience with one is ridiculous. If you carry that out to children, friends etc you are going to end up locked in a room alone for your life.

[ioncebelieved]

I wonder are there any men who feel like this? I see how women feel like they cant trust a man after something goes wrong in the relationship....

Well not exactly put like that, but I will always be on my guard and will not allow blind trust so easily anymore. Every new interest is not the ex, but everyone is a suspect. Even the nicest woman can be evil and I found that the hard way.

[avenger]

You talk about a man trusting a man. I'm talking about a man trusting a woman.

 

It depends on the individual. If he has had enough quality relationships in his past, he knows he can trust a woman, even though he might have had difficulties with this in previous relationships.

 

If a man has a had a quality, loving relationship in his past with a trustworthy woman, then he know there maybe others out there like her

 

I'm getting to know some really nice women and so far, its been a pleasant experience.

 

Oops I see my typo lol I mean Man trusting a woman...

Also this can be vice versa woman trustin a man....

 

Alone is the best medicine for me lol

[ahhhchooo]

Am actually finding it difficult to trust anyone, not just women. Right now I'm subconsciously keeping everyone mentally and emotionally 5 arm lengths away, though it was also what I did before I met my ex and gradually let her close to me over a long period of time with reassurance from her (without asking for it).

 

There is a girl at work I trusted for a little while, and while I was sitting down thinking to myself in a 3 day weekend isolation period, I got paranoid and decided to stop telling her anything about myself.

 

Makes it very difficult to meet new people when you seem cold and distant 100% of the time.

[maxmuscle]

Once trust is betrayed, it's very hard to get it back. That is the foundation of a relationship. I don't think I will ever trust women 100%. They get unhappy very quickly. Once the excitement, and high level interest of a new relationship settles down and the dust settles. You began to encounter flaws about each other. She began to start thinking if this is right or not. They will always look for that perfect " Knight and shinning Armor." Everyday has to be lived in romantic fantasy land. That is what majority of women want......

[carhill]

I trust women to behave however is in their best self-interest, which at this moment is the slow, groggy slog to the coffee pot

 

OP, women are people; humans just like you and I. We all are weak, make mistakes, and hurt others. We all are strong, loving and loyal. When you meet someone compatible, the mix of those facets will work for you. Believing and trusting in yourself and your path is the key. Good luck!

[CaliGuy]

I wonder are there any men who feel like this? I see how women feel like they cant trust a man after something goes wrong in the relationship....

 

I used to feel that way until I realized that it's the woman I was attracted to that was the problem and ultimately ME that allowed these women into my life. See, if you're confident and have healthy boundaries you won't allow bad people into your life who will taint your feelings on the opposite sex in general.

[LovieDove24]

CALIGUY: You are so right. I'm not a man, but you could rephrase the question for a woman too. And ultimately WE are the ones who allow untrustworthy people to stay in our lives.

[maxmuscle]

How do you know if someone is untrustworthy? They all put on a front in the beginning. Just when you figure it out, its too late, the feelings are there. Not to bash women, but it is a fine line with them. Damn if you do, damn if you don't. They want a good man, but you don't have enough money. You have enough money, but you don't show enough attention.