casey001 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Hey all. Im having problems with my bf and sense hes about to break up with me, my heart is dying on the inside and I dont know what to do. I sense he may have someone else and I know I wont be able to handle it if it turns out to be true, I am far to weak to cope with that over again. Anyway we are in a LD relationship and he spends a lot of time simply ignoring me! We were friends years before we got together and he was always like this but I just thought things would change when we got together! He has a ton of friends who he will take the time to send sweet txts and flatter but hardly ever me! For the last week he has been really grumpy with me. He came up with a rash due to a food allergy. I would txt him everyday with my best attempts to make him feel beta and he would either ignore me or just snap back at me. He was supposed to be coming to see me tomorrow but first decided he couldn't come anymore because of his allergies. I didnt hear anymore from him untill I begged him to let me know if he was still coming, to which he replied no because he cant get out of work. I havent done anything wrong and all I have done is try to make him feel better and be understanding when he snaps at me but my heart is starting to break. Im not strong enough to let the relationship go because I love him and cant deal with the 'whats ifs' I have had a cheating bf in the past who runined me beyond repair and its to soon for me to go thought it again. I tried to talk to him about it, but firstly he didnt answer his phone and then when I txt him I just get one word answers on the subject. One thing I did get out of him was that I am overthinking everything. Is this true? If so how do I calm down!!!! Hes not a bad person at all, even tho I have made out he is, and I need to make this work Do you think there is someone else, I neeed to prepare myself for it. Not sure I will be able to handle it a second time round tho.
SoundTribe Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 it seems like you are overwhelming him. Give him some space and don't talk to him during this time. If he calls you then get him to hang out. if you have to call back then you should end it.
ioncebelieved Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Sweetie, you are not going to like the medicine I am about to give you, but YOU will like what it does for you!!! I have been in (3) count them, three long distance relationships and from my experience, they do not work! The last one is why I am on here along with other dysfunctions from that said relationship. Here is what you do: You have a grown up talk with him. Try to do it in person if all possible. You basically break up with him before he does you. Throw his a$$ a curve. Do not do like I did and allow mistreatment for almost two years. The longer you allow him to play games, he will. It is going to hurt breaking up with him, but YOU have to do it. Otherwise, you do not listen to your gut feeling and allow him to dump you when he is finally ready. Ask yourself honestly, "Do I really feel this guy, the guy I love pulling away?" If you answer yes to the above self question. Then you beat him to the punch. Bottom line is if someone loves you enough, THEY FIGHT FOR YOU instead of giving you crumbs, treating you crappy and playing games. Just my two cents from experience. If they love you, NOTHING will stop them from keeping you.
ioncebelieved Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I would also like to add this: My last LDR, she lived 360 miles one way from me and nothing would keep me away!! I was having GI problems and hurting badly and would still drive to see her. I also had a herniated disc in my C6-7 and would drive to see her. I had surgery in May and it was that serious!! Nothing will stop them if they actually love you. See what I am saying? I hope you do.
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