goldencloud Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 hey you guys, not sure if you remember but a few days back i posted in regards to a guy i started to fall for regardless of the fact i was bothered by his ...ahem...belly and size:S i know shallow shallow, but indeed that initial shallowness is a thing of the past because i have FALLEN so thoroughly for him!! anyways i need advice because i believe i may have done a no-no when i met this guy in questions(about 1 month ago) my life was in shambles, i lost my job, fear of losing apartment, my depression came back, so you can see i really wasn't in the best state of mind. in any case after each date, this guy(let's call him Bob) would call me and we'd talk for ages..we never see eachother during the weekdays cos generally he lives outside the city..but we've spend pretty much every single weekend together since the past month! and honeslty he's the PERFECT gentlemen, opening doors etc...and he's foreve rkissing my cheeks/forehead..holding my hand on street...etc..but at same time due to his (highly highly privileged) background he is rather arrogant but not towards me tho he does come across as that... last weekend i went over to his and we went for lunch/theatre and then back to his. things started to heat up a bit...and well i knew where things were going, and before they even went there i stopped him and said i was really nervous cos had never done it with someone i wasn't '100 percent with'...see with us its odd cos i mean its only been 3 weeks at that point, how can we announce a bf/gf scenario tho neither one of us is dating another...in any case he instantly stopped, and said he repsects my decision 100 percent and i have all the time in the world but gosh i wanted it so badlyyyy, so badlyy!!! and in a move so uncharacteristic of me, we ended up sleeping together..i didnt really feel bad about it cos he was hugging me the whole evening, and in the morning made plans for lunch, and we watched a movie..he didnt try anything again tho which made me go a bit hmmm...? anyways i left, and later that evening he called me and we talked for hours on the phone about everyhting and anything ill be leaving town for a few weeks in a few days, so he called me again to arraqnge a time to meet(we met up today) so i went to meet him, but this time we didnt go to his place, we went to a cafe, and then we went for a movie...he wasn't too touchy feeling initially but got so progressively but in the sense that he will always hold my hands, kiss my cheeks, walk me back etc...make sure i call him as soon as i get home... im a bit confused? maybe this will sound a bit odd, but i really wanted some!!! and instead all i got were hugs/kisses/hand holdings?! and when i got home today he called me, we chatted and he said he'd call me tomorrow does he want me as best friend?!?!? is he interested in me?? i mean every sign points to him being interested but his...physcial(not the PG version) pursuit seems to have died...or slowed..actually to begin with, he never made an outward sexual move towards me...oh for info's sake he's very old fashioned too...oh my goodness, did i make a HUGE mistake sleeping with him 3 weeks in?!?! but if so why does he call me everyday and talk for hours?! and when im in his presence hug me as though we met after 78 yrs.. can someone please enlighten me. i spend like 24 yrs of my life being a prude(only slept wiht one guy after 2 yrs), and for once did something crazy like go with what i felt was right(this guy)...and had the time of my life..and now im DEPRIEVED?!!? before i forget, he suddenly lost weight over the past 1 month..could ti be he is self conscious? forever frustrated:sick:
IrishCarBomb Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 He's interested. You're overanalyzing. Chill out. Enjoy. Cheers.
oceangrl Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Think of it this way, hes not just into having sex with you
Author goldencloud Posted October 22, 2008 Author Posted October 22, 2008 honestly,i guess im just used to guys wanting to sleep with me, and me=saying no cos cant unless in relationship but with him it all feels so so so so so different..!! i cannot beliveee i slept with him so fast, and we're not even official gf/bf i guess im just feeling really insecure cos it seems everyone is going on about how bad of an idea it is to sleep wth someone so early...!! ): ): and today and the day after we had sex, he didnt even make ANY sexual move just hugs/kisses!!!
oceangrl Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Youre feeling vulnerable, thats understandable. But his actions don't show that he isn't interested in you. He probably doesn't want to make you think that hes just after sex, since the first time things got heated, you were hesitant. Maybe he wants the same thing too before getting intimate again--so he wants to take it slow because he respects you and wants you to see him as a gentlemen.
Author goldencloud Posted October 22, 2008 Author Posted October 22, 2008 thanks so much for your responses(: yeah i am feeling rather vulnerable...i can't understand it i guess cos im just scared of the whole 'sleeping together too fast'...but then again before we even did it, he stopped cos he could see i was really nervous until i of course initiated it again! since then its been all hand holding and him calling me randomly...i really like him, and geniunely like him, but im really scared that he might just blow me off):
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