foreverlove06 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Is this wrong? Let me explain: So about 3 years ago now, I had this guy friend (I'll call him "Mike") who was very close to being a boyfriend.. We hung out for at least a year (probably more...), but we avoided discussing our relationship so I never knew what we were! He never asked me out, but it was almost like we were together when I look at all the little things... except, we only acted like friends. Because we only were friends, but.. on the verge of being more. But there was always that underlying flirting that happened, which always made me wonder wtf we actually were... After a year of doing that, I met my now-boyfriend. We've been together for over 2 years now, and... once we started dating, "Mike" was so heartbroken that he refused to speak to me. From what I can tell, I pretty much broke his heart. He turned to drugs, dropped out of school-- And he says its all because of me.. which I hate thinking about... but we were never together! I was unsure about him, which is probably why we only stayed on the friend-level. But I did love him as a friend, hes one of the nicest guys I have met... So now, more than 2 years later, we text eachother every now and then. Since this all happened, he has mentioned to me that there are no hard feelings and that it was his fault for not asking me out sooner, and several times I have mentioned we should start hanging out again...but he always finds a way to avoid answering. When I tell my boyfriend about how I wish I still talked to "Mike", he takes it as me wanting to get back with my "ex"... Although, hes not an ex! He was just a really nice friend, and thats the part that I miss!... Its not because I wanted/want to be with him. I just miss my friend. Is it possible to ever get my friend back, or is the damage irreversible?
MrMe Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I think its possible. And I wouldnt blame yourself for his drug habit or dropping out of school.
LiveKhaos Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Its possible..however "old" or past feelings may start to arise once again towards your friend and that could be extremely dangerous for your current relationship. If you and him become friends again make sure you DON'T cross that line with him becuase you already have a boyfriend. And also do NOT blame yourself for his less then acceptable actions...although he felt what he felt..he still had a choice of not dropping out of school, and chasing drugs...you didn't force him to do any of these things...he chose too. Best of Wishes -LK
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