Prettyinblack Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 My ex of 10 months(together for 6) years has begun to hang out at my local hangout with a woman! and I am devestated. I am also driving myself nuts here...really, I am. I ended it with him because he is a committment phobic, cheated...and refused to make a committment of living together and buying a house. I ended it! And I am miserable. I had been hoping that he would pull out all the stops, so to speak. I expected that he would eventually show up at my door, begging me for forgiveness, say he would go for counselling and all the things that romantic movies lead you to believe. We are both musicians and the place I hang out, is the place he gigs at every 6 weeks. He is now hanging out with this older chick, who works at a local radio station and who makes a whole lot of promises! I am going crazy and have seen them out the last 2 week-ends. He contacted me a month ago....stating that he saw me at such and such a place, what time it was, he thinks of me all the time and I sent a cool e-mail back stating that if he didnèt wnat to go for counselling, I wasnèt interested in anything else. He shows up 3 weeks later at the club, on his off night, with this chick. I walked right past him pretending I didnèt see him..It is killing me. The second part is.....a mutual couple (musicians, I might add), that WE hung out with, have begun giving me the cold shoulder now that my ex is seeing this radio staion chick. So, I have 2 situations..... I have 2 questions......what do I do about how I feel about him. And what do I do about the friends.......I feel ousted and horrible.
UnamedSeven Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 My ex of 10 months(together for 6) years has begun to hang out at my local hangout with a woman! and I am devestated. I am also driving myself nuts here...really, I am. I ended it with him because he is a committment phobic, cheated...and refused to make a committment of living together and buying a house. I ended it! And I am miserable. I had been hoping that he would pull out all the stops, so to speak. I expected that he would eventually show up at my door, begging me for forgiveness, say he would go for counselling and all the things that romantic movies lead you to believe. We are both musicians and the place I hang out, is the place he gigs at every 6 weeks. He is now hanging out with this older chick, who works at a local radio station and who makes a whole lot of promises! I am going crazy and have seen them out the last 2 week-ends. He contacted me a month ago....stating that he saw me at such and such a place, what time it was, he thinks of me all the time and I sent a cool e-mail back stating that if he didnèt wnat to go for counselling, I wasnèt interested in anything else. He shows up 3 weeks later at the club, on his off night, with this chick. I walked right past him pretending I didnèt see him..It is killing me. The second part is.....a mutual couple (musicians, I might add), that WE hung out with, have begun giving me the cold shoulder now that my ex is seeing this radio staion chick. So, I have 2 situations..... I have 2 questions......what do I do about how I feel about him. And what do I do about the friends.......I feel ousted and horrible. I use this term a lot and only because it eventually works. "Time heals all wounds". If you are being given the cold-shoulder by your friends, then thats just wrong. If they were your real "friends" they wouldn't be doing this to you Trust me, even though its been 10 months, i would suggest finding another person to be with. Just a really close friend that you may want to have something more with, in a few months when your heart recovers.
Peter_pan Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 "stating that he saw me at such and such a place, what time it was, he thinks of me all the time and I sent a cool e-mail back stating that if he didnèt wnat to go for counselling, I wasnèt interested in anything else." how does that work then? if he hasnt been with you for that long i doubt he will be thinking of doing that on his own or with you./ he has someone new now. you need to move on. its hard but its the only option by looks of it
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