angieg101 Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 I'm not the typical girlfriend. I like my space and I like to give space. As long as I get a phone call or a txt msg at least once a day I'm good, especially if I am super busy. Well, when my "boyfriend"—don't know how much longer I will be referring to him as this, began dating 5 months ago my intense schedule was not a problem for him. I had a very busy load and his was lighter and he was the pursuer so my lack of "need" in communication was not a huge issue. Now it seems to be what is breaking us up. He is now super busy and I am not. I have told him that I would be willing to support him till this busy time was over, just as he did for me—(to me as long as I spoke to him once a day and saw him at least once a week, I was fine with that). But then I started to realize that he was not only putting work first, (he's a teacher and it's the beginning of the school year, so I was fine with that), but he also puts his friends before me. I mean, I get it, my friends are very important to me too, but I've always found ways to work him and them into my life. In the beginning he did too but now that he is "busy" he doesn't seem to want to try anymore. I really like this guy. I understand that I have "trained", for the lack of a better word, him not to want my time. We are now at a breaking point. Last week we had the "just friends" conversation, where he mention that option and when I told him that I understood where he was coming from (no, I did not beg I just said reminded him that I was in his situation when we first met and that he was patient with me and I would be willing to do the same, since most of his commitments end in November) and then said he needed to think about what to do, and get back to me in a few days. In a few days he called, I missed it and he didn't leave a msg. I called back the same day and he didn't answer. A couple days later he called again, I missed the called and called back but he didn't answer. I am tired of games. I do really like this guy and know that I played a huge hand of pushing him away. I just don't know what do to at this point. Outside of this communication stuff (which is very impt) we've had very little issues and hung out a lot this summer (I'm a teacher too). Now it's like we don't even know each other anymore. I have no idea what is going on in his life and he has no idea what's going on in mine. Is there anything to be salvage here? I feel like there is, but don't know what my next move should be. Plus, now I am wondering if there is someone else… Advice is appreciated!!!! Thanks
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