sungrl Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 this may sound like a real dumb topic but it has crossed my mind and i was wondering what others thought do you know how some guy friends are? when they hear a friend broke up with their girlfriend they actually show they are happy about it and they egg the guy on about how he made a good decision if she was too jealous or too this or too that...i have actually played this out in my mind about my ex boyfriend telling his two good friends(who are above 30 and mostly didn't have positive things to say about women) and how my ex probably just blamed it all on me saying--i didn't want a relationship anymore, she was too jealous or too this...and then them asking how did she react and him saying she was hysterical(which was i was) and how she still wants me back i just feel like i probably look like such a pathetic person and he must look "cool" in a way because he broke up with the girl and the girl still wants him back this may sound weird and i know shouldn't be thinking about it but this has crossed my mind and it bothers me a little, almost angers me because i'm pretty sure his friends asked that and i doubt my ex would lie and say she was fine with it..he would say the truth, that i was hysterical and really upset over it....i guess it just bothers me how he probably comes out of this looking so cool in a way like he can have anyone and put together with the situation but it makes me look bad almost hard to describe my feelings exactly
lofi_tokyo Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 I actually know a guy who threw a "Spencer is FINALLY single" party. He was so happy to have dumped his ex him and his friends threw a huge party, and he even invited mutual friends of his ex. Terrible stuff. Tore the poor girl apart.
Author sungrl Posted October 21, 2008 Author Posted October 21, 2008 i bet he played this off like this is such a huge relief...meanwhile i think i was a genuine girlfriend--never cheated on him and pretty much all i was guilty of was really truly loving him and just wanting a little more attention which probably would have made most of my insecurities about him go away...
Treasa Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 IF he and his friends are acting like this, then just blow them off and forget about it. Their opinions don't mean jack in the grand scheme of things. I think that insecure women (and I've been there) tend to place an awful lot of importance on what their boyfriends and their boyfriends' friends think of them. They're just people. Their opinions mean no more and no less than anyone else's in this world, including yours. They don't belong on pedestals. Nor does your ex. Do you think that it might have been insecurity that made you demand more of his attention? Why did you break up? In any case, don't ever act hysterical or beg a guy back. At the very least, save your dignity, because whether or not you get back together or not, you'll always have that at least. And men tend to respect and want women who can control their emotions.
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