Adam17 Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 ok im new to this site but here it goes. Its been 7 months and things are good but shes got some things that i dont like, im not going to get into it because thats not why im here, she has this friend, and her friend told me they used to get sexual with eachother, this i found out about a week ago, told me gf and she said the opposite, idk what to believe, i want to believe my gf but she alos said said she was BI but just said she isnt, i dont want to be hurt by her anymore but i love her more than anything and she probally will kill herself if i leave her. What should i do?
Geishawhelk Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 If you're comfortable being with a Bi-G/F and want her to be faithful to you, that's a reasonable request. She can't have you and someone else. Whether it's another guy or another girl, that would be cheating on you. If she says she's not bisexual, I guess you might have to play the "wait and see" game.... If the fact that she's Bisexual bothers you, then she's probably not the girl for you. What makes you think she'd kill herself if you ended it?
quankanne Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 i dont want to be hurt by her anymore but i love her more than anything and she probally will kill herself if i leave her. What should i do? loving someone doesn't mean turning an eye to red flags that pop up. Your GF may be bisexual and doesn't know how to deal with it in a relationship; y'all need to talk about this to see how this fits into y'alls relationship. As for her sleeping with her friend, well, if it's in the past, that's where it needs to stay, you know? However, if this relationship is giving you a bad feeling, maybe it's time you should go. No use making the both of you miserable just for "love." as for the killing herself part – has she threatened you? Is she unstable? Or is this something you think will happen because of past history? if she's unstable or has a history of suicide attempts, then yes, you should be very concerned, but should you decide to leave her, there are ways of withdrawing that don't threaten her sanity or security, and possibly help her to deal with this in a less dramatic way, especially if she feels it's a mature way of dealing with a split. if she's threatening to kill herself? Oh, that falls under the umbrella of emotional terrorism, and that has NO PLACE IN ANY RELATIONSHIP. That's just someone playing dirty to keep their partner or "loved" one where they want them. My thought is, someone who is truly suicidal is not going to announce his/her plans because they either want to "show" someone (as in revenge, but at the point of hurting themselves) or because they *don't* want to hurt someone (going quietly away). When someone threatens to kill him or herself, it's more of a control thing, IMO
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