dbella5 Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Well, me & my son's father dated for 5 years. Lived together for about 4 years and then I became pregnant. We were young, it was unexpected but we managed to get thru it. After giving birth I suffered post partum depression very badly but was in denial so unable to get help for it. I ended up telling my son's father that I no longer loved him & wanted him to move out. At the time it seemed like the right thing to do but soon after he moved out when our son was about 1 years old. I realized then that I made the biggest mistake of my life. At this point I had seaked help & snapped out of my depressed mode, but it was too late. He was so extremely hurt that there was nothing that I could say to make him forgive me & give me a second chance. It's been 4 years since our breakup. I am now 28 & ready to be stable in my life but no one to share that with. I have a new boyfriend that in my head I'll always compare to my past love. The love that I let walk away. He is also with someone new. Their pretty serious. Almost every day that goes by, I cry. We have our son together so it's extremely difficult to get over him when I have no choice but to talk to him at least once a week if not more. If I can't have him back (which obviously I can't) then I want to get over this heartache. I can't give my all to my new relationship because I feel like my heart still belongs to another. I want to stop the tears, I don't want to look at my son anymore & cry because all I see is his daddy, I want to stop comparing my new boyfriend to him because deep down I think he's the only one who did & could ever make me happy. I just want to be at peace. What do I do? How do I get over someone who I loved more than life itself and now have to face him on a weekly basis & know that I am the reason that our son has to grow up in a broken home. Advice is needed for this broken heart.
Ariadne Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Hey, You are 28 now and that age can be stressful. You feel like you are the right age to be settled by now having a family and not be dating, especially with a child. And now you regret that you had it all with the father of the kid and you have idealized that relationship. But it is not that you are the reason that our son has to grow up in a broken home, your ex-partner also didn't want to give it another chance. You are going to have to accept that that is how things are now. And is a wonderful time, when your child is that age. A time of marvel. Enjoy!
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