You'reasian Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Just went on my third date with a woman whom I see as a "nice girl." I'm taking my time with her, because I would rather gradually earn her trust and know her wholly than to rush into something really physical and prematurely. She is very intelligent, per her education and chosen field (went to one of the top school's in the nation) and has done things that most women would shy away from but she is sooo humble. I am very impressed with her! I was not initially attracted to her but am finding her just a little more attractive each time we spend time together. There were some great vibes from our date. I want to be friends first (women seem to have problems with this...) and try to romance her over time. If it never leaves the friends phase, I'm okay with it because my actions match my desires and I would still love her to be a friend. That's all I got. Have a great evening good people of LS.
Suiyobi Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Sounds like a keeper. Nice women are hard to come by, at least from where I live.
jimbo Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Its a rarity in this area, so hope it goes well. At least better than my last encounter of the third kind.
SushiX Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 That's great to hear you're such a gentleman. I used to drop girls like flies. Moving too fast and end up in meaningless relationships. I'm seeing a girl now and taking it slow myself. I like her alot and not rushing anything.
javierserventez Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Going slow is definitely not a bad idea, just make sure not to lose such a catch by going to slow! GL!
prettybaby Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 What? You mean, no complicated issue to solve here? lol She does sound like a keeper! Good luck
bhweller Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 I usually hear the opposite, the guy wants the girl but she puts him in the friend zone. You need to aware.....If you take a girl on a date and there is no spark of passion, then it won't work long term. Both of you should be getting horny or all it will ever be is friends. If you don't kiss her within the first couple dates she will give up on you as a romantic partner. Even religious virgins will kiss you on the 3rd date if they like you.
Isolde Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 He said he wanted to romance her slowly, over time, a lot of girls like that. Maybe they're just sort of hanging out right now as opposed to "dating." Whether the girl is patient enough to wait for the physical stuff depends on how much she likes him... It sounds like he is attracted though, just that he wants to approach this different from other girls
Isolde Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Also, I do NOT believe that sparks of passion need be there on the first or second date. Sparks of attraction, yes, definitely... but passion is such a strong word for someone you're just beginning to get to know, and puts SO much pressure on dating.
Author You'reasian Posted October 21, 2008 Author Posted October 21, 2008 I'm strangely confident and not even worried about the outcome - I just know that I'm becoming a little more attracted to her each time and I think I may try to kiss her soon to see where it goes... It'll either end up nice or spiralling into an akward phase - and if its the later, I'm just gonna laugh at myself
Author You'reasian Posted October 21, 2008 Author Posted October 21, 2008 What? You mean, no complicated issue to solve here? lol She does sound like a keeper! Good luck I appreciate the simplicity of it all - I really do. By the way, I'm down with your stewartess avatar - lemme tell you about me.... I'm 2'10" and 120 lbs, as you can see I have a white and tan fur coat that keeps me warm. Love long runs, especially on the beach oh and a good rub behind the ears. That is all.
Author You'reasian Posted November 25, 2008 Author Posted November 25, 2008 We'd been busy over the last month, but she called me up. We went out for dinner/dessert and it was really, really lax and we had a great time. Some interesting conversations and a few good laughs. She's smart and capable. A keeper, but friends first. I see this going as a friendship for a while, maybe never progressing into a relationship, but she doesn't have too many friends and we have alot in common. No rush.
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