tomtom26 Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 I have a hard time coming to terms with the fact that she isn't the right one? She broke up with me, but why is it so hard to move on? Why do you keep holding on to something that was good, but you know that it working out was slim? Is it hard for us to be rejected? Are we has humans pulled towards the unattainable? ..............................why do we put them on a pedestal? And how do we get past this?
BCCA Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 Acceptance is the first, and by far the hardest, step to recovery. Denial runs strong, and everyone wants to believe that they are the exception to the rule. Being rejected triggers a reaction in us to strive to be what the person who just rejected us wants. We focus so much on that person, and what they want, that we lose track of who we are and what we want. Our entire life becomes consumed with figuring out what it takes to get that person back, even though more often than not, its pointless to waste your time worrying about. You get past this by forcing yourself to think about other things. Realize that just because one person out of millions doesnt want to be with you, it doesnt mean that there is anything wrong with you or that youll never find anyone again. Most relationships fail, sadly, so when yours falls apart, just realize that you are one of MILLIONS going through the same thing. The steps to recovery seem easy, but are hard to follow. You need to rid your life of this person entirely, and do not contact them at all. Get rid of any pictures, cards, notes, memories, etc, erase their number from your phone, delete them off your facebook/myspace, and do anything you can to make sure you dont 'accidentally' see them. If you go someplace and your ex is there, leave immediately. A lot of people try to hold onto the hope that if they stick around long enough, thier ex will come back, when doing so is counterproductive. You need to completely cut them out all together, and keep it that way. Its not easy, but well worth it in the end.
pinkrazr Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 tomtom you have the same mind as I do. I'm glad to hear I'm not alone
Peter_pan Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 hit the nail on the head, BCAA is right though. good insight
ioncebelieved Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Because deep down in your thoraxic cavity resides a thing called the heart. Three chambers on the right side, two on the left, has a right and left ventricle on bottom as well as an upper side called the atrium that is on the left and right. Your heart tells you that you love, it feels that you love and most of the time it seems to beat your head! In your mind you know what the deal is, but breaking it to your heart takes time!!! My heart still thinks my ex is "the one", but finally my head whipped my heart's a$$! The battle still goes on, but my mind has become victorious!
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