amymarieca Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 Sorry serialgf, but with all due respect, I think you made a huge mistake here. Guys take longer to develop "commitment-type" feelings. If you push too much too soon, it is going to backfire on you. I think you need to give this love thing a rest and just let things develop naturally. People don't like being backed into corners, especially when it comes to their feelings. There is another thing that concerns me here. How can you know that you love someone after such a short time? I think these are feelings of infatuation and not love. It is normal to have the butterflies at the very beginning, but do not mistake it for true love. That sort of thing takes time. You don't even truly know who this person is!
oceangrl Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I know a guy that met a girl and they fell in love instantly. They thought they were perfect for each other.....she stayed over EVERY night at his house and the guy loved it. But then when things weren't so "perfect"....they started fighting. Their relationship fell into a pit just as fast as they fell in love. By the time they found out that they were incompatible, it was too late....she was pregnant after dating for about 4 months. Slower is ALWAYS better. Guys are always on their BEST behavior early on. Even when you think you know him very well, you don't. There are things that ive learn about my bf now that I didn't know 2 years ago. If you guys were meant to be, there really is NO rush because you have a lifetime to love each other. Just be very very careful...
Author serialgf Posted October 22, 2008 Author Posted October 22, 2008 i appreciate everyone's input. to the person who said that guys take longer to develop "commitment-type" feelings this is not so with my bf. one of the first days we hung out he told me that he only likes one girl at a time and likes to be in a committed relationship. he has a track record of two 8 year relationships and a handful of smaller relationships. again i will mention that since i told him that he has only been nicer to me, there is absolutely no weirdness between us and we've been extremely happy oceangrl... i have been in a relationship like the one you're talking about where you sleep over every night everything is hunky dory and bam you start fighting and it all goes to $hit. i feel my situation is different in a couple of ways. first, we spend more time together than just sleeping at night - i think that's important. second, we always talk about what we want to do at night - we don't assume that we're going to sleep together - i think that's a common downfall. and third, we agreed a while ago that we wanted to sleep together at night for practical reasons because its freezing a$$ cold here and neither of us really have good heating.... so i don't know guys. i will update you as things move along. i know most of you think that falling in love has to be a slow process and i'm hoping to prove you wrong... but i am also being realistic and keeping my eyes wide open and my mind reasonable thanks for the great advice!
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