allieapplesauce Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 so after the thing with the D.Bag happened, i eventually found this other guy i've been dating since mid july...so its been about 3 months. some people at work who are about my age were all like 'were there sparks?' and at first i was like not really...and they were like 'i know in the first 5 min if it's there' and im like well, first off, i dont really rush into things and get attached like that very quickly. most of the sorta relationships ive had are from people i already knew as friends and liked them a whole lot before even trying dating them. this new guy i had to get to know from scratch. im just wondering, based on where were at right now if this seems normal. i know im not supposed to let things from past relationships interfere with current and such but i cant help it i just dont wanna get hurt. hes about 15 months older than me, he works, has his own place he rents. he is very gentlemanly, such as opening the car door and closing it again, opening regular doors, letting me order food first, paying for stuff, cooking me dinner, calling on the PHONE, rather than texting as the main point of contact...and so far, when there's plans to call he calls... it took two months before any kiss or anything thats going ok now...he slept over 2x my place mostly b/c we were just on the couch snoozing after a movie but he could have gotten up and left. sat night i was over his place and he asked me to stay so i did...then i went home sun, got showered and went back over and we went out for a few hours to do some running around and whatnot...then i ended up staying again...now there's no sex involved at this point or anything which i wanna keep it that way. he's not inforcing it, and i'd rather wait until we have some sort of discussion about the relationship. he's made no mention of meeting family or anything...havent had any compliments like i look nice or anything like that either tho...tho i havent really given him any...im not real good with that stuff...the last guy was all about compliments but then that didnt end up working out at all... i don't know what what should come next....or if i should bring anything up or if thats too soon. one guy at work was just making conversation with some of us (not around my guy or anything) about how he'll take a girl home to meet his mom after the 3rd date usually) i was like what about 3 MONTHS? so i just dont really know what to do or just go with the flow? and someone said that i cant call him my bf cause he hasnt asked/we havent had any talks...but would it be right at this point to call him that anyway?
amaysngrace Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 I don't think there is any set time on when you should be brought home to meet the parents. You guys haven't even discussed the future of the relationship or clearly defined it for what it is yet so I wouldn't sweat that. I would just refer to him as "the guy I'm seeing" because at this point that's just what he is.
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