Kissed then dissed?

[sand26]

I have been divorced for three years and happily focusing on myself, now I am ready to dive back into the dating world, but I need help...the game may have changed.

 

Met this girl at my friends club on Thursday, she works there - but was off duty when I met her. After we talked a bit I invited her to a nearby bar where we drank and talked. I liked her energy and we kissed a little bit, as 5:00a.m. came around I suggested she spend the night with me in my hotel room, (I live on the opposite coast), she said she could not because her friend (who was with her) needed to stay with her that night. I had my sedan drop me off first and we kissed goodnight, before I could reach my hotel room she texted me, "she enjoyed meeting me."

 

I was only in town one more night but had plans to spend it with my friend at his club where she bartends. When I arrived I saw her working and said hello, she was cordial, but showed no hint of our chemistry the night before. I went and danced with my friend and only saw her when I was ordering drinks. when the bar closed all the workers and me stayed after to wind down and socialize. I sat by her, asked questions, tried to rekindle our spark, but she didn't reciprocate and went to sit with her coworkers. So I began wondering if the "nice meeting you" text I had received the night before was some formal blow off and I was not taking a hint. I backed off and waited for my friend. We all locked up together and said goodnight, just a quick hug. "Done", I thought, "what a fool I am for thinking this gorgeous young thing was interested... embarassing." Then.....a text? Moments after leaving me .... she texts me? "Don't forget to call me next week when you are in town, you are fun." she writes. I (still reeling from surprise) write, "dinner, next week" She says "fantastic"..... So, was she just in work mode? Or I am going to be her buddy? Is texting someone seconds after saying good bye to them normal nowadays? Any way, I think I should never call her, I hate games. Besides we live nearly 3000 miles apart and there is a 10 year age difference. But I have met many women since my divorce and had no feeling towards any of them, even if coitus took place. I actually really liked this girl and I am thinking of her often since friday night. Please, young dating aficionados: decipher this situation....advice welcome.

 

thanks,

BC

[Geishawhelk]

On the first evening, maybe she felt more footloose and fancy free for having had a few drinks.

 

The second evening, she was 'on duty'. They probably have rules about openly fraternising with the clientele. It's just not 'professional. But that she texte you afterwards, she must have been aware of her behaviour and your reaction. So she just wanted to tell you that 'all bets were definitely NOT off' - !!

 

My guess.

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I think you came on a bit strong on the first night when you proposed that she spent the night at your hotel and may have felt awkward socializing with you the second night.