Miranda1 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 ...so what is it about american women, that makes some men of other ethinicities not desire marriage with many of us? i've heard this of some indian, hispanic, and african men. i'm truly curious. i've heard that they think that we american women try or are too independent and therefor will not "submit" as easily. also, do they assume that the majority of american women are just crazy sex fiends...(ridiculous, but...) American women seem to have a reputation for being very sexually aggressive. Scary, but true!
Miranda1 Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 But back on topic - I find it offensive that anyone could see mixed marriages as being a negative thing, because it's thanks to my parents being married and having me, that I actually exist! So, I hope people see the positive aspects to mixed marriages a bit more. I myself, would never discriminate against anyone because of their background, and I have friends from all different backgrounds. My life is much richer, as a result! I know that America and Australia both have shameful histories of racism, but I think politically, both countries have progressed really well in recent years. In the US, it was thanks to the Civil Rights Movement in the '50s and '60s, and in Australia, it was thanks to former PM Gough Whitlam, who abolished the White Australia policy in the '70s. Dating-wise, I don't have a specific type, in terms of their ethnicity. I just love music guys, that's about it! They can be of any ethnicity, just as long as we have shared interests.
Author muse08 Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 i definitely don't feel that there is anything negative about mixed marriages. we were simply exploring the reasons why some some men don't choose women of other cultures as wives, after dating them...
Author muse08 Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 American women seem to have a reputation for being very sexually aggressive. Scary, but true! where are you getting your information/opinions from...american women more sexually aggressive...? not really scary just doesn't sound true...
taiko Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 where are you getting your information/opinions from...american women more sexually aggressive...? not really scary just doesn't sound true... Relative to European women untrue. In some parts of the world if a woman is as aggressive sexually as an American who's been hooking up since she was 14 then her father and brothers will kill her. I believe the quote came when we were talking about South Asians who would play with American women then choose a family favorite for a wife.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Relative to European women untrue. In some parts of the world if a woman is as aggressive sexually as an American who's been hooking up since she was 14 then her father and brothers will kill her. I believe the quote came when we were talking about South Asians who would play with American women then choose a family favorite for a wife. While this happens, it's not frequent enough to warrant a generalization (not that I'm saying you were generalizing). It bothers me when this happens. I know guys who screw around with women from other cultures and backgrounds and then decide to settle down with a "nice" girl "back home." Some guys even consider girls from their country of birth to be of more "worth" as far as wife material than their Canadian (or American) born counterparts (ones who share the same South Asian roots).
taiko Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 It bothers me when this happens. I know guys who screw around with women from other cultures and backgrounds and then decide to settle down with a 'nice girl' back home. Some guys even consider girls from their country of birth to be of more 'worth' as far as wife material than their Canadian (or American) born counterparts (ones who share the same South Asian roots). Actually you could say it was a generlization that happens enough for the general public with little ties to that community to bring it up. I do believe its true that South Asians and Chinese are the least likely to be in an inter-cultural marriage. In my opinion it happens when eventhough the family immigrated they don't respect their adoptive culture. That India/China is superior to America/Canada, as such people of the lessor culture are not do the respect that a woman's Indian/Chinese family would get.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 Actually you could say it was a generlization that happens enough for the general public with little ties to that community to bring it up. I do believe its true that South Asians and Chinese are the least likely to be in an inter-cultural marriage. In my opinion it happens when eventhough the family immigrated they don't respect their adoptive culture. That India/China is superior to America/Canada, as such people of the lessor culture are not do the respect that a woman's Indian/Chinese family would get. The guys I mentioned in my above post are not the norm. Most guys marry the girls they date, not the ones their families suggest they marry. I personally can't see myself marrying out of my culture. This isn't because I see my own cultural background as being superior. Far from it. I actually consider myself more of a Westerner than I do an Easterner. BUT, my identity and upbringing is what it is. I need and want someone who has a similar background as me. It's what I'm attracted to. This is not to say I haven't been attracted to men outside of my culture. It's just that I never clicked with anyone of them the way I have with my bf. There is something to be said about a shared cultural identity. It's not for everyone, but embracing the idea doesn't make one ethnocentric.
selena_cat Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 hey Muse I have always dated interrracially whether its white,or latinos, maybe it is because I grew up in a very racially diverse environnment in NYC and went to racially diverse schools. I always felt comfortable with dating outside a color spectrum since I was a teenager,but now as i got a little older (not that old),i am looking beyond that, I would prefer dating someone who speaks another language,or is from a differnt country,ut who resides in the U.S. Maybe they will bring more to the table besides just being of another race,you can learn alot,and they from you too like the person i'm talking to,he goes to my University and is from France, which is great because i get to practice on my french anyway! Hopefully you too will find someone who will suit you and hopefully will make your heart sing,but its great to also date people from different cultures too. best of luck!
Green Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 hey Muse I have always dated interrracially whether its white,or latinos, maybe it is because I grew up in a very racially diverse environnment in NYC and went to racially diverse schools. I always felt comfortable with dating outside a color spectrum since I was a teenager,but now as i got a little older (not that old),i am looking beyond that, I would prefer dating someone who speaks another language,or is from a differnt country,ut who resides in the U.S. Maybe they will bring more to the table besides just being of another race,you can learn alot,and they from you too like the person i'm talking to,he goes to my University and is from France, which is great because i get to practice on my french anyway! Hopefully you too will find someone who will suit you and hopefully will make your heart sing,but its great to also date people from different cultures too. best of luck! You should date an Italian soccer player or a Brazilian Architect
allina Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 I don't know if it's more sad or annoying to see how tightly people cling to their ideas and stereotypes about others. I don't know if this comes from a negative experience, ignorance or what.
Author muse08 Posted October 29, 2008 Author Posted October 29, 2008 hey Muse I have always dated interrracially whether its white,or latinos, maybe it is because I grew up in a very racially diverse environnment in NYC and went to racially diverse schools. I always felt comfortable with dating outside a color spectrum since I was a teenager,but now as i got a little older (not that old),i am looking beyond that, I would prefer dating someone who speaks another language,or is from a differnt country,ut who resides in the U.S. Maybe they will bring more to the table besides just being of another race,you can learn alot,and they from you too like the person i'm talking to,he goes to my University and is from France, which is great because i get to practice on my french anyway! Hopefully you too will find someone who will suit you and hopefully will make your heart sing,but its great to also date people from different cultures too. best of luck! thanks salena...yeah, in due time i will meet that certain guy who makes my "heart sing". i too desire someone of a different culture and/or experiences different than my own. i enjoy having something to talk about and learn(and teach for that matter). i also dated a guy who spoke french AND spanish. so yes, i learned quite a bit and he too, about my culture and life in general. we all have something to teach someone else. i just look forward to learning and truly loving...when the time is right. as of now, the time is not right...i don't think.
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