Green Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 hmmm, not so much my belly button, but around the area...hips, etc. they may take this joint down real quick if i keep going...right KMT? haha nah I think your safe
Author muse08 Posted October 20, 2008 Author Posted October 20, 2008 i'm curious to know what you've asked about in the past regarding race...ha? curious minds wanna know!
BubblyPopcorn Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 hmmm, not so much my belly button, but around the area...hips, etc. they may take this joint down real quick if i keep going...right KMT? Forget about that. Now, getting back to the lower regions. Splain!
Author muse08 Posted October 20, 2008 Author Posted October 20, 2008 Forget about that. Now, getting back to the lower regions. Splain! bubbly...you're trying to get me in trouble. i wanna keep this post up. you may be conspiring to get this thing taken down...so chill out, you don't know me like dat ;-) are you male or female?
BubblyPopcorn Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 bubbly...you're trying to get me in trouble. i wanna keep this post up. you may be conspiring to get this thing taken down...so chill out, you don't know me like dat ;-) are you male or female? Ok homey homes. I am a female, I doubt there are many guys out there with "Bubblypopcorn" as a screen name.
Okeydokey Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 muse - cool thread. i've never dated a white guy (i'm white) and the most awkward thing i've had is when others would strike up anegative and racist conversation with him without realizing who their audience was. i would want to be supportive, but didn't really know if what i was saying was just making it worse and it would have just been better to let him forget about it? i don't know i feel like that is the biggest challenge - esp. at the beginning when you are still getting to know each other.
Author muse08 Posted October 20, 2008 Author Posted October 20, 2008 Ok homey homes. I am a female, I doubt there are many guys out there with "Bubblypopcorn" as a screen name. lol...i know,but i was just asking...i knew bubbly sounded like a girlie girl
Author muse08 Posted October 20, 2008 Author Posted October 20, 2008 muse - cool thread. i've never dated a white guy (i'm white) and the most awkward thing i've had is when others would strike up anegative and racist conversation with him without realizing who their audience was. i would want to be supportive, but didn't really know if what i was saying was just making it worse and it would have just been better to let him forget about it? i don't know i feel like that is the biggest challenge - esp. at the beginning when you are still getting to know each other. i feel you OKEY-. i'm sure he(the guy yo date) would be pleased to know you have his back. trust me on that one. however, as a man in general i think they like to handle situations themselves most of the time. but always let'm know in some way that you have his back. sounds like you show him plenty support anyway just by the tone i get from you...cool...
flc Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 I date mainly Latin women and never have a problem with it. My current gf is Peruvian and we get a long just fine. There are some cultural and language issues at times but it has nothing to do with race. Being white down here in S. Fl makes me the minority, but I have no problem being the lone gringo. Like KMT says if your attracted to someone then race is not an issue for you.
cheezy100 Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 For most of my life I had gone around as if there was only one type of man to have a relationship with. (A 3 day long boyfriend in high school hardly qualifies right...?) So, this year I opened myself up the dating outside my race. As a black female, I can say that we don't date outside our race as much as women of other races. I must say that I am quite comfortable dating white men. Many similarities come in different packages. Though we may all know this, I have witnessed it for myself and can speak on it now more than ever before. I've come to the conclusion that I think a white man will be IT for me, not as a caprice, but as a life-long partner. Anyone care to share experiences? Now, my question...Is there anything in particular that you(men or woman) pay more attention to when dating...especially when dating outside your race? Well, I'm chinese dating a korean. I mean, we're both asian still. I only date chinese, korean, or japanese...which all fall under ASIANs...I gave up on white guys because of bad experiences.
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2008 Author Posted October 21, 2008 Well, I'm chinese dating a korean. I mean, we're both asian still. I only date chinese, korean, or japanese...which all fall under ASIANs...I gave up on white guys because of bad experiences. can you describe your bad experiences...
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2008 Author Posted October 21, 2008 I prefer my own race (white) but I am open to dating outside my race. I like non-white women to be Europeanised, if they aren't, I won't bother with them. europeanised, like how...? appearance or state of mind? how old are you?
Al_Bundy Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 For most of my life I had gone around as if there was only one type of man to have a relationship with. (A 3 day long boyfriend in high school hardly qualifies right...?) So, this year I opened myself up the dating outside my race. As a black female, I can say that we don't date outside our race as much as women of other races. And what would you say the reason you don't date outside your race as much as women of other races?? I must say that I am quite comfortable dating white men. Many similarities come in different packages. Though we may all know this, I have witnessed it for myself and can speak on it now more than ever before. I've come to the conclusion that I think a white man will be IT for me, not as a caprice, but as a life-long partner. Anyone care to share experiences? How do you go from not dating outside your race to thinking a white man will be "IT" for you?
vonerik012 Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Well, hopefully there is a white man somewhere saying "I feel a black girl will be IT for me"
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2008 Author Posted October 21, 2008 And what would you say the reason you don't date outside your race as much as women of other races?? How do you go from not dating outside your race to thinking a white man will be "IT" for you? for those black women who this applies to, the reason perhaps is lack of exposure and fear of disapproval from the black community. my reason was just lack of exposure and that i love black men still. ---> so to answer your next question , the "IT" question...i said that because the last non-black guy(s) i dated held my interest a greater deal, than the black americans i dated. i have dated black guys from other countries and they too held my interest, but were too controlling. so maybe i just really take to men of other cultures...not other races...? i enjoy spending time with men who are well rounded and who have a swagger about them that says they're confident and one that makes me feel safe in their presence.
signedin2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 There are many potential problems when it comes to dating interracially (particularly true when it comes to marriage and children) and especially when one of the party is black (I am sure you are aware of it). It' is less controversial when an Italian dates a Venezuelean or when a Korean dates a Brazilian, but when it comes to blacks, many people are not open to it. You have to make sure that the non-black partner's family are okay with it and often at least one member of that party is against it. On the other hand, the black partner's family has to be okay with it too to avoid name calling such as traitor, etc.
trubella Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 You have to make sure that the non-black partner's family are okay with it and often at least one member of that party is against it. On the other hand, the black partner's family has to be okay with it too to avoid name calling such as traitor, etc. make sure for what? family should have no say in a persons love life, unless your the type who needs approval from family to date whoever that would be a different story, if someones against it who cares really, i never did.
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2008 Author Posted October 21, 2008 make sure for what? family should have no say in a persons love life, unless your the type who needs approval from family to date whoever that would be a different story, if someones against it who cares really, i never did. right... i expect some people to have a problem with it...friends and/or family. but that won't dictate my actions. i do respect my parent's opinion to a certain extant. however, ultimately my family wants me to be happy...regardless of the guy's race. on one else is going to be living this life for me..."I" have to be happy with who i'm with...
Miranda1 Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 It's funny, in Australia, there doesn't seem to be much of an issue about 'mixed marriages,' or anything like that. I really think it has something to do with the relative lack of a class system - the first European settlers here were convicts from Britain, and a lot of British children were brought over in the 1910s to work as 'child slaves' on farms. So, colour doesn't denote your place in the class system, as it has done so, historically, in the US. And the indigenous population is acknowledged as being the traditional owners of the land. So, romantically, there is a lot more freedom here. My dad has a British background, and my mum has a Pilipino and Spanish background. A lot of my friends have mixed backgrounds, too. One friend has a father who has a British background and a mother from India. I think it makes sense, even from a scientific perspective, that we're naturally attracted to people with different genes than ourselves, because our offspring would be more genetically diverse, and therefore, stronger, smarter and healthier. Conversely, people who say, marry their cousins, are more likely to produce offspring that are prone to serious genetic disorders. This explains why we're more attracted to people who don't look like us. We're genetically predisposed to have fitter, smarter, healthier offspring. It's all about Darwin's theory of natural selection, and evolution. I think if humanity evolves and becomes stronger, fitter and smarter, that's what we need to make the world a better place. Indeed, I've noticed that people with mixed backgrounds excel academically. In my own experience, I've done very well, and have just received three Highest Achiever awards for obtaining the highest marks in three of my subjects at university last semester! I've also done well through primary school and high school. My friend (who has a mum from India) has excelled academically, and speaks fluent French, German and Spanish. And Barack Obama is an absolute genius, and an inspiration to everyone around the world... But yes, there are many benefits, socially, politically, culturally and scientifically, for mixed marriages. I, myself, love men with African backgrounds, mainly because of their deep voices - very masculine! Hehe...
signedin2008 Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 make sure for what? family should have no say in a persons love life, unless your the type who needs approval from family to date whoever that would be a different story, if someones against it who cares really, i never did. That would be true if you are an orphan or you have no good family foundation. I guess it's the latter for you. There is a saying that one just don't marry his/her spouse, but also the family of that spouse. I think that saying is a little extreme, but, most educated and well-behaved individuals will take family and background into consideration when marriage is being discussed.
vonerik012 Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 I think it makes sense, even from a scientific perspective, that we're naturally attracted to people with different genes than ourselves, because our offspring would be more genetically diverse, and therefore, stronger, smarter and healthier. Conversely, people who say, marry their cousins, are more likely to produce offspring that are prone to serious genetic disorders. This explains why we're more attracted to people who don't look like us. We're genetically predisposed to have fitter, smarter, healthier offspring. It's all about Darwin's theory of natural selection, and evolution. I think if humanity evolves and becomes stronger, fitter and smarter, that's what we need to make the world a better place. Indeed, I've noticed that people with mixed backgrounds excel academically. In my own experience, I've done very well, and have just received three Highest Achiever awards for obtaining the highest marks in three of my subjects at university last semester! I've also done well through primary school and high school. My friend (who has a mum from India) has excelled academically, and speaks fluent French, German and Spanish. LOL... First of all Gene pools have enough diversity that people do not have to "marry their cousins" Secondly, please post a scientific study that states mixed children are more intelligent.. Which race in the mix exactly would become more intelligent? Sorry, that does not even make sense.. One member of a group with an average IQ of 85, marries a member of a group with an avg IQ of 100, and then the average IQ raises magically to 110? lol In reality the IQ, over a set of a large number of couples, IQ would regress towards the middle. Around 92-94. Do you have any idea of what Darwin said about the races? I am guessing Brazilians should have the highest IQ's on Earth?
trubella Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 That would be true if you are an orphan or you have no good family foundation. I guess it's the latter for you. There is a saying that one just don't marry his/her spouse, but also the family of that spouse. I think that saying is a little extreme, but, most educated and well-behaved individuals will take family and background into consideration when marriage is being discussed. understatement of the year. lol, actually im pretty close to my family, they just have enough sense to know they wont be able to dictate who i can and cant date, they can voice their opinions of course but ultimately its my decision, no one elses.
Shygirl15 Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 most educated and well-behaved individuals will take family and background into consideration when marriage is being discussed. .. and most well-behaved families with good family foundation will respect the wishes of the concerned family member's choice of partner.
taiko Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 .. and most well-behaved families with good family foundation will respect the wishes of the concerned family member's choice of partner. Are we just talking so-called race or multi-cultural relationships? Definitions of good families depends upon culture. If he is Indian and the oldest son he will be expected to move his parents in with you. With family at such close quarters it can cause many, many problems if they did not approve.
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2008 Author Posted October 21, 2008 I think it makes sense, even from a scientific perspective, that we're naturally attracted to people with different genes than ourselves, because our offspring would be more genetically diverse, and therefore, stronger, smarter and healthier. Conversely, people who say, marry their cousins, are more likely to produce offspring that are prone to serious genetic disorders. This explains why we're more attracted to people who don't look like us. We're genetically predisposed to have fitter, smarter, healthier offspring. It's all about Darwin's theory of natural selection, and evolution. I think if humanity evolves and becomes stronger, fitter and smarter, that's what we need to make the world a better place. Indeed, I've noticed that people with mixed backgrounds excel academically. In my own experience, I've done very well, and have just received three Highest Achiever awards for obtaining the highest marks in three of my subjects at university last semester! I've also done well through primary school and high school. My friend (who has a mum from India) has excelled academically, and speaks fluent French, German and Spanish. And Barack Obama is an absolute genius, and an inspiration to everyone around the world... But yes, there are many benefits, socially, politically, culturally and scientifically, for mixed marriages. I, myself, love men with African backgrounds, mainly because of their deep voices - very masculine! Hehe... ignorance is truly bliss and perhaps your middle name... the fact that you actually posted all that rubbish and tried to justify it, shows how much intelligence you are truly LACKING...despite your "mixed" background.
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