lookingforhope Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 how do you go on after losing your first love. I'm trying to go day by day but its not helping. im breaking down fast. i dont know how to deal with the pain. my body mind and heart hurt. i just feel like theres no way things can get better. he was my first everything and it was real. but somthing went wrong in the matter of months. i just want to die. end the pain. i never thought somthing could hurt this much. what am i supposed to do. how do i deal with this heartache that wont go away. its killing me inside. i dont think i can handle it much longer.
SoundTribe Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 Its a tough pill to swallow, losing your first love. I lost my first love about a month and a half ago. Just maintain NC, and life will go on. The first week I was hysterical, but now I could care less. My advice would be to talk to your friends and family about it, they can make you feel much better.
Peter_pan Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 it hurts like hell. i dont even know how i got through it tbh. best thing is to keep active, join a gym and literally try and be in your friends company as much as possible. do things for you now. and stay in no contact. its hard but i guess we all have to go through it sadly.
EmperorR Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 NO CONTACT, trust me it works im 26 days NC, and slowly getting back my life I've been where you have been feeling like dying, not hungry, can't sleep, thinking of her 24/7, thinking how she's the best ever and you'll never find anyone like her again and why God why me. GO No contact
JooLee Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 its a constant battle of the mind. remind yourself. you deserve better and it gets better. and you truly do and it truly does. hold your head high
jtipouikidis Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 It hurts like hell, and I wish I could tell you that it will go away soon. The truth is it was your fist love. For me it is coming up to a year and I still think about my ex all the time. I miss her, but I know that I have to move on. What I did is immerse myself in work. I found that I could not be alone so I would go in on my days off. I also ran away I actually took a job halfway around the world from where I lived. I don't know if I would recommend this but I just could not stay in my city anymore. It is nice being somewhere where things do not remind me of my ex. I will go back but I need the break. All I can say is take it one day at a time. You will have good days and bad days. On the bad days, call a friend go do something fun, anything to keep your mind off your ex. I hope the best for you.
sedgwick Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 Are you seeing a therapist and exercising? Both help tremendously.
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