shanta Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Will you talk to females about personal things if you just like them as a friend or do you only talk to females that you really care about about the personal things?
prettybaby Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Interesting question! **grabs the popcorn**
carhill Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 For me, it's levels of intimacy. I'd be far more intimate (in discussions) with a female friend I've known for years than a romantic interest I've known for a few months. Intimacy means the sharing of personal feelings and information that are the result of mutual trust being built over time. That time flows equally whether the interest is romantic or platonic, for me anyway. The key way, IME, to tell if a man who is "sharing" is interested romantically is how he acts, which includes flirtation, touching or sexual suggestions or talk. A man who merely has platonic interest will seldom do any of these things. His interest will remain topical and personal, but not sexual or romantic. So, what are you seeing OP?
Suiyobi Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Will you talk to females about personal things if you just like them as a friend or do you only talk to females that you really care about about the personal things? I discuss personal matters with the girls who are close to me, whether it's a relative or someone who I have an intimate connection with. Those who are merely friends or acquaintances usually don't hear much about me unless they start probing questions, and even then I usually leave out the more personal stuff out.
Author shanta Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 I have known this guy for over a year now.At first was just usual conversation between 2 people and we have fooled around but we both knew it was just fooling around but now its more personal info he is sharing and all.Some is the subjects that u really dont want to hear and wonder why someone would talk to you about them.But he tells me alot of personal things and usually he is a stand offish guy. So i was trying to see what yall thought about what is going thru his head why he feels the need to tell me the personal things i mean personal things and personal embarrassing things also included.
Suiyobi Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 You've earned his trust and therefore he feels comfortable sharing these bottled-up feelings with you.
cryn4attn Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 hey i can't figure out how to post my own thing so i have to add to this one, can I ask...what does it mean when a guy tells you they like you a lot and not to worry that they're going to lose interest but yet doesn't respond to text messages and only calls you every other day?
prettybaby Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 hey i can't figure out how to post my own thing so i have to add to this one, can I ask...what does it mean when a guy tells you they like you a lot and not to worry that they're going to lose interest but yet doesn't respond to text messages and only calls you every other day? Hahah, it totally sounds like he hasn't figured out the text option on his phone yet lol
fral945 Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Usually only females I care about. Then again, I don't have any close female friends, but that's another discussion.
Author shanta Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 hey i can't figure out how to post my own thing so i have to add to this one, can I ask...what does it mean when a guy tells you they like you a lot and not to worry that they're going to lose interest but yet doesn't respond to text messages and only calls you every other day? see the new thread at the top of the forums hit that button and post your question.
Author shanta Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 Thank You to all the men that have responded.
Yamaha Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 If I get really personal with a female I usually like her more than a friend. Men are different than women in this regard.
carhill Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 If I get really personal with a female I usually like her more than a friend. Men are different than women in this regard. Generally accurate. Good litmus test is whether the man has female friends who are married or in sexual relationships with others and what those dynamics are. If the friendships are open (e.g. spouses/SO's know man), then it's likely he can and does have platonic friendships with women. In such friendships, intimacies (not relationship intimacies, rather work/family/friend intimacies) are often shared. Not common, but not unusual either...
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