Meaplus3 Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Ok. I had an offical date:love: the other night and it went real well. This is someone I could see going on a second date with and getting to know futher. However, I'm just not sure I'm ready for a serious R just yet. How do you know? I ask this because I have been off the dateing scene for many years now.. so I sort of feeling like a baby learning how to crawl. Any advice.. suggestions?? AP:)
Tony T Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 You are the only one who can answer this question. It's a feeling and you will know inside your gut when you are ready for a serious relationship. To get to that point, however, you should get out and meet people, go out with friends, go out on dates with different people...even if you have to force yourself. If you don't meet people you it will never happen. If you aren't ready yet, meeting and dating different people is a great way to work into a more serious thing in the future. One thing, don't force it. Don't feel like you NEED a serious relationship or you have to have it. And be very careful not to invest one, two or even more years in a relationship that's going nowhere. Make good decisions going in. Give each situation a lot of thought...(uh, with your brain)...no insult intended.
Geishawhelk Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 I think if you were ready for a serious date, you'd feel it... butterflies, loss of appetite, can't stop thinking about him... The guy you're seeing may be really nice and all, but maybe he's just not got what it takes to "wammo!"... Keep dating for a while, enjoy the company, but be up-front. Be honest, and tell him you're taking things real slow and not promising anything. Enjoy yourself, and do NOTHING against your better judgement. Not because you think he would/wouldn't like it... be a good person, but be good to yourself.
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 Yeah..I guess I'll just take this slow and not rush. I have been getting myself out there so to speak. So I now see what's on the market. I did have that butterfly in the tummy feeling from this guy he was perfect in so many ways. Perhaps that's what got me thinking. I bet I'm just afraid to a certain degree. AP:)
BubblyPopcorn Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 I think what your feeling is completely normal. You don't necessarily have to go into it questioning whether or not you are ready for a serious RL unless you feel very strongly that your not. If you can see it as a possibility that you are open to, great. And it doesn't necesssarily have to be with this guy, and sometimes it hits you when you least expect it. Go on the second date, if you like him, go on a third one, so on and so forth. Try to keep it light, etc. and get to know each other as much as possible.
jerbear Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 Ok. I had an offical date:love: the other night and it went real well. This is someone I could see going on a second date with and getting to know futher. However, I'm just not sure I'm ready for a serious R just yet. How do you know? I ask this because I have been off the dateing scene for many years now.. so I sort of feeling like a baby learning how to crawl. Any advice.. suggestions?? AP:) So that was the reason why you turned down my date request! :lmao: Well to answer the "how do you know?", for me, when I am in the "I don't care mode". I'm going on the date to meet someone, no R expectations, and to enjoy life.
johan Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 Flip a coin. Also if you're curious about how he feels, pull the petals off a flower one-by-one.
melodymatters Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 ......................................the action of posting this question, means, that you are ready....... You sound excited, and life is too short on these "Disney World " moments. ...........ENJOY this one AP : you deserve it ! MM
Nemo Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 KMT just exploded all over your face. I'd say you're ready for anything.
BubblyPopcorn Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 I think she's ready too, the fact that she is attracted to him enough to go on a second date speaks volumes. It is baby steps, I too am just starting to take them and each day you get closer and closer and when you become interested in other people that's when you know your getting there. Keep us posted OP!
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 20, 2008 Author Posted October 20, 2008 Bubbly, I will accept a second date if he asks. Nemo, You make a very good point there. MeL, Thanks's sweetie.:love:I think I deserve this too. Sort of been a long time coming. I just need to relax. Johan, Jerber, I'd never turn you down. AP:)
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