Lishy Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Answer me this ..... Why is it that when you break up with someone they do everything BUT the right thing? They text and call and say all the wrong things? Why dont they just sit back and think about what is needed? This is not just about me here, 3 of my friends have recently been through breakups and the guys just did all of trhe wrong things so they ruined ANY chance of a reconcilliation! This isnt just about men either as I know women do this too Why??????????????
alwayssme Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 wait when you dump someone or when you've been dumped by someone? what do they text that ruins any chance of getting back together? angry stuff?
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 What I mean is that when you break up with someone there is a reason and when you break up you state your reason so if that person ..... Hang on let me give you an example If my bf broke up with me because I was a nagger and possessive then I would think about what he said and if I agreed that maybe I did act naggy and posesive then I would try to make amends and admit to how I was and try convince him that I would stop being that way ... I wouldnt text him joke texts and messages saying "good morning" or "hello" You catch my drift? Why do people think they can sort things out by ignoring it and acting like all is fine? My ex did this and so have my friend's exes!
alwayssme Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 i understand what you mean but i have a question. my ex broke up with me for whatever reasons, then i told him i would change and was willing to work on the problems! then he tells me it's too late now because it's over and he's moved on but we should still be friends! so we text each other saying hi sometimes...is that wrong? i think when you're hurting you're not thinking straight and it's understandable to be hurt and either show that person how you're feeling or try to work things out...some people show it differently
Star Gazer Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 I think that, for most people, if they react based on emotion, they will likely stick their foot in their mouth (or up their bum). When we're hurt, we have a tendency to say things we don't mean, lash out... We just don't think rationally. As a result, I always try to cool down before acting. But it's hard!
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 Always .... That is a very different situation - Your ex broke up with you and had decided there was no going back so when you tried to tell him you would change he was already emotionally 'checked out' of the relationship. Imagine when he told you that he was breaking up with you and you did not offer to change or work things out, instead you just sent random texts with a joke or just saying hello?? That is what I am saying I hope it makes sense lol
lofi_tokyo Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Answer me this ..... Why is it that when you break up with someone they do everything BUT the right thing? They text and call and say all the wrong things? Why dont they just sit back and think about what is needed? This is not just about me here, 3 of my friends have recently been through breakups and the guys just did all of trhe wrong things so they ruined ANY chance of a reconcilliation! This isnt just about men either as I know women do this too Why?????????????? What exactly did the guys do? I'm curious ;p
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