aberro Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 I've been married to this girl for 4 years. I told her on our wedding day that I did not want to be her family's handyman. I am an electrician and A/C repairman. (I have no family) Now, after many "family" repairs, for free, she is pissed that I don't want to change her parents A/C cooling coil. Hard job. About this time, a co-worker said she and her husband were cash strapped, poor and their A/C quit working. I told them that I would look at it and if easy, I would fix it. It was easy. 10 dollar part and 5 mins. Now she wants a divorce since I agreed to fix a poor persons AC if easy and did not want to fix her parents A/C, hard job. What do you think? I'm losing my mind. I love her and this simple thing is driving us apart. What is up with women???? PS, her parents are not poor, they just bought a new car for $30K by writing check!
Mino Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 I've been married to this girl for 4 years. I told her on our wedding day that I did not want to be her family's handyman. I am an electrician and A/C repairman. (I have no family) Now, after many "family" repairs, for free, she is pissed that I don't want to change her parents A/C cooling coil. Hard job. About this time, a co-worker said she and her husband were cash strapped, poor and their A/C quit working. I told them that I would look at it and if easy, I would fix it. It was easy. 10 dollar part and 5 mins. Now she wants a divorce since I agreed to fix a poor persons AC if easy and did not want to fix her parents A/C, hard job. What do you think? I'm losing my mind. I love her and this simple thing is driving us apart. What is up with women???? PS, her parents are not poor, they just bought a new car for $30K by writing check! Sorry, I have to agree with your w. You should not charge your inlaws... Thats like charging your parents... get it???
Author aberro Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 Sorry, I have to agree with your w. You should not charge your inlaws... Thats like charging your parents... get it??? NO, I don't get it. If your wife/husband asked you to plow 100 acres of land for her parents, would you gladly do it? Even if they had money to hire someone to do it? You would not feel the least bit used?
GoGators2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 NO, I don't get it. If your wife/husband asked you to plow 100 acres of land for her parents, would you gladly do it? Even if they had money to hire someone to do it? You would not feel the least bit used? I'm sure the AC work isn't the only reason why she wants a divorce or else your wife of 4 yrs is a real piece of work and prolly doesn't really love you.
Ariadne Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Hey, I think you have to fix the thing for her parents. You are part of the family and you know how to do that job, just take some time off and go take care of that.
Isis1808 Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 I dont think that you HAVE to do it just cause its her parents. Its your choice, it shouldnt be a mandatory thing, and if they want you to do any job they should pay you at least a small amount, out of courtesy, it doesnt have to be the same amount you would charge a random person but they should give you something for the work. After all that is your job, its not like its just something that you know how to do but arent getting paid from it. Find out what the underlying problem is with her, there has to be something more than just an A/C repair problem. Good Luck!!
Author aberro Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 I'm sure the AC work isn't the only reason why she wants a divorce or else your wife of 4 yrs is a real piece of work and prolly doesn't really love you. I have tried to get her to go to marriage counseling, she refuses. Let me add to the story. She called this poor person and told them how much of a low life they were and told them they need to pay me. She does not know them and got the phone number off my phone. She said she did it to hurt me I think I'm in an abusive marriage with me being abused. I would never purposely hurt anyone.
Geishawhelk Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Then walk out on her, before she walks out on you. Sorted.
wareagle Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 I think there is ALOT more to this story than you are telling us! You don't ask for a divorce over something so stupid!! Spill the beans homie!! Tell us the whole story about your relationship. Oh and yea you should have offered to fix your inlaws ac! When you marry someone you also marry their family, so doing small things for them comes with the territory!
Davey McG Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 Aberro, I can definitely understand the frustration that you would have with the odd-jobs. I work in a field where most people don't understand the intricacies of the work and have done some for-free work for my wife's parents. I am a web developer. I got very frustrated as the two hour job turned into a project worth a couple of thousand British pounds (about US$3,800) with endless revisions and redesigns and addition of features. They had no concept of how difficult it was to make some of the changes and I felt pretty used at the end of it all. So, I would disagree with several of the posters who perhaps expect that the tasks you are undertaking are 5 minute jobs and not larger jobs. Oh, and after reading your other posts. It definitely sounds a pretty abusive marriage.
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