juliemanooli Posted October 18, 2008 Posted October 18, 2008 My boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago, and it was so unexpected that i took it really hard. 2 days before the breakup we went to Orlando to celebrate his birthday, and everything felt so perfect. So thats why i didnt know that he was gonna end things. We were so happy together. He was (and still is) the best person i've ever met. So when he said he wanted to be friends, i couldnt believe it. He couldnt even end things himself, i had to drag the words "lets be friends" out of him. It all started when he randomly called me and asked "do you think our relationship was as strong as it was a little while ago?" i was like.. wtf. i told him yes! of course! i didnt see anything wrong. obviously he must have been good at keeping his feelings in. during the conversation, i asked him "what do you really want michael?" and he just kept saying "Idk" He said he wanted what was best for the both of us and that "he didnt know what he wanted", but i could tell that the conversation wasnt getting anywhere. He even said "I dont want you to be without me no matter what my decision is". selfish *******. i still love him though :/ He avoided seeing me at school for a week. We were both afraid of running into eachother in the halls. Then one day i decided to text him. I told him that when i agreed to be friends, i actually meant it. None of this ignoring business. he agreed and once again apologized for all he's done. Then, i asked him again why he truly ended things with me. he said he stopped liking me a few days before the breakup. we dated for 9 months. and he randomly stopped liking me for 3 days. and then he says "I'll never know if what i did was a mistake or not, but i want us to be friends" What does this mean? so now we're cool, i guess.. Everytime i see him, its a mutual thing. the akward "hello" and whatnot. But i always catch him staring at me. I feel as if there are unfinished business between us. Like its not truly over. I dont believe that he could just end it after nine months and move on that quick. When all his friends ask him why, he replies "i dont know"
thedistrict Posted October 18, 2008 Posted October 18, 2008 Get out there! You're in school, go meet some new guys let him know what he's missing
Shygirl15 Posted October 18, 2008 Posted October 18, 2008 He is confused. More reason to why you need to get up and move on with your life.
Geishawhelk Posted October 18, 2008 Posted October 18, 2008 I've heard of 'commitment-phobe' - but this early in Life - ?? Oh goodness, it could be anything! Hormones, uncertainty.... I can understand liking but not loving, I can understand loving but not being IN love.... But - "I stopped 'liking' you....." - ?! The fact that he cannot seem to verbalise what precisely is on his mind makes me wonder how articulate he is - and when it comes to his feelings, he's just not got it, has he.....? Unless, of course, there's another girl...... Do every other cool, mature, articulate and demonstrative guy, a favour. Move on from him, he's being ridiculous. Frankly, I think you've been very mature about it all, so let him go, and find a better deal.
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 18, 2008 Posted October 18, 2008 I'll translate for you, he digs you but he wants to go sow his oats.
Author juliemanooli Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 GeishaWelk, you are so right. And i wish i could walk away from him, but its sooooooo hard, being attached to someone and then a day later, being forced to act like you dont care anymore. I'm sure there is no other girl though. Because 2 days before the breakup, he was perfectly happy with our relationship. He couldnt have met someone that quick and decided to end things that fast. You have a good point. I feel like he is unsure with everything. 2 weeks before he broke up with me, he told me he loved me for the first time. I dont understand how a person could change their minds so quick. I think he's bipolar.. GAH.
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