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Must not break NC!

lofi_tokyo

By lofi_tokyo
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I think sometimes complete NC (as in not even looking their facebook/myspace, old pictures, momento's etc) does not work for everyone. From the sounds of it you are doing the right kind of NC for you. Its pretty impossible to erase a person from your life when they go to the same church as you. As long as you are keeping things to a minimal (which it sounds like you have), I would say you are doing NC very well. The ultimate goal of NC is to help you heal. I suppose it does not matter how strictly you follow NC so much as the end result - you moving on.

 

Thank you tokyovogue :) it's been 2.5 months now since the break up and I think NC IS helping me to heal - that is my ultimate goal for doing it. I still have my bad days though - like this morning (because of yesterday when I saw him at church arghhh) and I almost wanted to call him - but no I won't do it! It's only going to hurt me and make me take 10 steps backwards.

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Its kinda funny that you prank called. ;p Its not pathetic just crazy!!

 

She was engaged to you, right? This is clearly a rebound relationship, so try not to take it too personally. I think... when people go into rebounds, sometimes its because they miss the person they dumped an incredible amount, and needed to fill the void. Maybe you two were not right for each other - if she cheated, there must have been problems, at least on her end, but regardless of being compatible or not, she loved you and you filled a big space in her life. Now, shes on the rebound. It hurts but... its most likely because shes trying to fill the space of missing you.

 

Sometimes, rebounds can last years. Sometimes, rebounds turn into meaningful relationships. It depends on the people in them. I'm sorry you're in this situation Emp. You'll get stronger. :)

 

Yeah she was, I know its a rebound relationship as it was literally the first guy she bumped into when she went back to school, but again I have bad luck for all I know they will get married next year or something:laugh:

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