preztonizer Posted October 18, 2008 Posted October 18, 2008 We Dated 11 years go, he ran away then. Met up with him again, this time I had 3 kids already. He was married, had a house and a vehicle. He moved right in with me and left her and the house behind. He traded in his vehicle for a family suv, got laser eye surgery, a $4000 bed, just thought he was in luxuary land now. Great with the kids at first, the nicest man in the world. We got pregnant, like he wanted also. He quit his job, got lazy, I found him a new one. We got behind, bill collectors calling all the time. He started being mean to the kids, saying he wished they were dead, no more kisses, hugs, sex went away. He was throwing up, no he wasnt doing drugs or drinking, sleeping all the time, not eating dinner with us anymore. Just seemed like he got really depressed. He doesnt like to communicate, said that is why things fell apart with his ex wife, he don't communicate, as he did again with me. I got really miserable and didnt know what to think, was he cheating or depressed or what. He is 35 and has never lived alone. Lived with parents until he was 24, then ex wife until 34 and then with me for a year. He cant stand living with parents. We were suppose to get married Oct 2009, have more kids someday, our baby was 3 months old. He started saying things like Im not marrying you, Im not having any more kids with you. I dont want sex anymore, I dont want to go anywhere, I just want to eat, sleep and stay home. And If I had it my way your kids would be dead by now. I said look we need to talk, he said NOPE, so I said something I wish I didn't I said talk or leave...He got up off the couch and left, I thought he'd be like oh Im being a jerk she means business she must love me, and talk, but instead he ran. Hes been living with his parents for 7 weeks, Either his mom or he comes every Saturday to get the baby for 7 hours, drops him off and thats it. Its like I never meant a damn thing, what do you think, was he just using me to get away from anotehr relationship he admitted to messing up to avoid his parents, did he love me, was he cheating, did he hate my kids, was he depressed? But if he hates living with his parents so much, why is he there now? If hes there so easily now,why couldnt he just of gone there from his ex wife and skip the part of having his first kid with me, planning a wedding, hurting 3 children, making more debt for himself to begin with, and breaking my heart a second time, hurting me and leaving with with a 4th kid to raise alone? And he is very stubborn, hes the kind of guy that if they did figure out they were wrong would not act upon it, or get help if they need it, how can someone just run away from you when you been really nice, never fought, did everything for them and had a baby with?
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