JePam Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 Last year my best friend began seeing someone. He was really happy and was having alot of fun with her. He even loved spending time with her son from her last boyfriend. Soon after (maybe 2 weeks) she became pregnant with their daughter. Or so she said. My friend was over the moon about it, they soon moved in together and started to prepare things for the baby. But ever since that happened, every time i talk to him, he has nothing but bad things to say about her and the relationship. He got a new car which he paid for with his own money, but because he hasnt gotten his full licence yet, they had to register it in her name and because of that, he isnt allowed ALLOWED to drive it and has to ask permission to drive it. They have shared bank accounts which she is incharge of, she takes all his money as soon as he get paids and leaves him very little. If he buys something to eat while out, she gets mad at him for wasting money, but when the credit card statments come in it shows that she buys food from different fast food outlets for her lunch. Her son is allowed anything he wants because she dosent want to deal with the tantrum he will throw, but if the only food left in the house to eat is food that is reserved for her son my friend isnt allowed to eat it. which brings the last problem up again because he has to go buy something to eat. She dose hardly any house work or cooks dinner for their family, but expects tht my friend dose it when she wants him to, which from what he has told me is all the time. Playing with her son, he has cracked a tooth which is causing him alot of pain, but she thinks that paying the bills is more important than going to his tooth fixed. (he has been putting up with this pain for nearly 2 months now) I am worried that it will get infected badly and cause other teeth to fall out. Her brother has recently needed a place to stay, he has brought dope into the house which he smokes inside. My friend has stated many times that he dosent want it in the house but she is ignoring him and even smoking it herself, stating that it dosent matter because she never dose it withthe kids in the house. How am i meant to bring up to him that i really think that he needs to either leave her or get some kind of help because she is treating him like a slave and i cant just stand by and let him be treated like this.
Geishawhelk Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 Tell him what you think by all means. But the final decision has to come from him. The only one who can get him out of this mess, is him. And he's got to want to do it.
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