jess_101 Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 I'm 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend since i was 15. We're coming up to 3 years now and he is 20. I'm not sure wether i still want to be with him or if i'm just with him because it's "the norm". I had depression 2 years ago and he was my safety net. He supported me and i always went everywhere with him as he made me feel safe. I'm a lot better now but i still need him to come if i say go to the pub with my friends. Am i still with him because i feel i need him? Or do i still love him? I don't feel as attracted to him any more as he doesn't make an effort. We have sex like once every 1-2 weeks but when we do it's really good. He is really kind but we obviously have our differences like every couple. Now im getting to the point where i feel like finding some one else. I would never cheat on him but i keep fantasising about other men. I'm quite open minded and i feel like i have never experienced much and if i stay with him i never will. I suggested a three some to him but he says he would feel jealous which is fine. Has anyone got any advice on how to spice things up? Or do you think it's over or too late?
SushiX Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 Am i still with him because i feel i need him? Or do i still love him? No one can really answer this question for you but yourself. But I'll just assume you're bored of this relationship. No more excitement? You're still young dear. The ocean's out there. There are many fishes. Why not go fishing?
Suiyobi Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 Don't give in to infidelity. First discuss the issue with your boyfriend and resolve the matter. If, however, you think you both need to go your separate ways then make it clear and close the deal. That way, you both won't have as much emotional baggage when you meet new people.
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