Natalia68 Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 Hello everyone and thanks for reading. I'm writing here tonight because I'm feeling really down and I don't seem to get any advice that I can use :/ I'm 18 years old, fell in love with one of my classmates that I met around 2 months ago... It was obvious that we liked each other since the very first time we talked, everybody in class noticed. A month passed by, he would call me every night just to ask how was I doing, we would do everything together, he would buy stuff for me in the cafeteria, make me company at the bus stop and things like that. One night he called me and before he hung up he told me he really missed me on the weekend, I was left speechless and he giggled... The next day we had to finish a project, we were in my room just working and chatting until I told him I like him and he said he liked me too, I just couldn't believe it. Before he left that night we kissed each other but we didn't really talk about us or anything, I didn't care cause I was extremely happy... The next days we would still kiss and hold hands sometimes, since I really liked him this kind of confused me, I just wanted to be his girlfriend but he wouldn't ask me out. One day at class, this really got to me, he was just trying to talk to me and I would reply pretty cold to him, he asked me what was going on but I refused to talk, after school we talked and I asked him if we were going anywhere, he couldn't reply cause he had to go, finally when we talked he was mad at me for the way I treated him before and he explained to me that I needed to change my behaviour, I agreed and that was it. I was still confused because I didn't know if we were just going to be friends or what, so one of my friends commented that it looked like he was kind of flirting with this other girl, I obviously didn't care but it did bother me a little. I ended up getting mad at him again for no reason, he said that I didn't have to worry that he's not interested in anyone else, and that we should get to know each other better before getting in a relationship. So yesterday we had to finish this project that was due today, we didn't really have much done and I was asking him how were we going to finish it, apparently he thought I was yelling at him or whatever so...for third time he got mad at me. Last night we were texting each other, I didn't think he would still be mad at me, he was driving so he said he'd text back once he got home and so he did and I replied with "would you like a welcome back kiss?", his reply wasn't really what I expected (he replied with "what?") so I just replied back with a Nevermind. He asked me to explain to him what did I mean and I told him it was supposed to be a silly joke... He told me then that he'd better talk to me tomorrow when I'm less stressed out, I was really confused so I asked him what was he talking about and he said that I should analyze the way I behave, cause he didn't like the way I treated him earlier that day... I texted back saying that I felt like he didn't care for this project and that I was basically doing it all on myself (yes I know this was a mistake), and that maybe he should analyze himself as well (double mistake, I know..). He didn't reply back since it was late... This morning when he got to school, he asked me if we could go to the cafeteria to talk for a bit, I followed him and we sat down. He started attacking me and yelling at me, I didn't tell him much cause for some reason it sounded like a huge joke. I kept replying with "mhmm, okay", once he was done I just stood up and walked back to our classroom. We haven't talked ever since, and after class when we were hanging with our group of friends I said goodbye and when I tried to kiss him goodbye he was all serious, that really hurt me. I think this time I really screwed up and lost him, I don't know what to do, I don't know if I should try to save what's left or not... I know that if I don't make the first move he won't do it, but I just feel weird trying to apologize for like 3rd time... I honestly like this guy, I felt we could have a really great relationship and the fact that I can't talk to him right now is killing me, please help me and give me some advice! Anything you have to say is going to be really helpful and appreciated, thanks in advance!
amaysngrace Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 You need to lighten up. A lot. You are being way too aggressive and possessive and it isn't very attractive. Like my BF's mom says "quit the talking and enjoy your young bodies". You probably turned him off first when you were cold towards him and it sounds like you've done nothing to warm back up. You should really try to be less serious. Guys like fun girls.
Author Natalia68 Posted October 17, 2008 Author Posted October 17, 2008 Things between us have been running fine, we have lots of fun together and we laugh all day together, but when it comes to school work I try to be as responsible as I can and I think that screwed it up :/ I don't know if I should try talking to him and apologizing though, and if I should, when would be the right time to do it? Maybe wait a few days or try doing this tomorrow/asap? Thanks. ~
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