vince1128 Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 While today i sent the wrong text to the wrong person and it was extremely awkward. Background: Theres this girl ive been chillin with lately and shes been lettin me hit it basically whenever i call her. BUT, she is also very clingy.. and really likes me. My douchebag "friend" (whose her ex) told her that i play girls yesterday and that i dont get into relationships. then he calls me a minute later and is like, "yeah man just hit it and quit it, blah blah blah" right after he told her all that crap about me. So then i was like ****, im gonna feel like a big dick whenever she finds out i dont wanna date. well.......that point came earlier today. I was trying to text my friend and accidentally sent her this message, " Dude how should i get out of relationship talk with shannon cuz i no thats what she wants and i dont think i do" ***** ***** *****!!!!!!! so then i tried to cover it up by "continuing" the message and said,(continues from last msg) "want one until all that crap works out so i need a week or two probably before i would want to talk about somethin like that is that ok with you" tick tick tick 45 minutes later in between classes shes waiting outside my class for me smiling like usual and i was like "did u get my text" she said yeah and then i tried to cover it up i said, " well u kno i like you and i dont want to mess anything up by rushing into things so i just wanna take it slow" she said "ok thats fine" and then i think i tried to explain myself a little more and she just kept sayin fine. so anyways she texts me about 20 minutes later while im sittin in class and its the first part of my message with something after it- "Dude how should i get out of relationship talk with shannon cuz i no thats what she wants- why is that in 3rd person?" i said, "cuz honestly i started off like i was gonna txt ryan (my friend who i was going to txt in the first place) and then i decided to just ask u straight up and was to lazy to retype it lol" so i think i covered myself. she hasnt brought it up since but it was just a super awkward situation lol thought id share
Kamille Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 Ever crossed your mind that maybe you should just be honest with her and let her decide whether or not she wants doing you even though you don't want a relationship? That would be the respectful thing to do.
Author vince1128 Posted October 17, 2008 Author Posted October 17, 2008 Ever crossed your mind that maybe you should just be honest with her and let her decide whether or not she wants doing you even though you don't want a relationship? That would be the respectful thing to do. ........no
serialgf Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 you're a total player. i feel bad for this girl why did you post this? it doesn't sound like you need advice you seem pretty good at what you're doing...
Kamille Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 ........no Ok then. Keep manipulating people to satisfy your needs then. Good luck with that.
Author vince1128 Posted October 17, 2008 Author Posted October 17, 2008 Ok then. Keep manipulating people to satisfy your needs then. Good luck with that. ok, thanks god why are people on here such pussies... theres more to dating then not having sex and complaining. i say go out and get some while the gettins good
Angel1111 Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 It's not impossible, but it is kind of difficult to text the wrong person - maybe it was a Freudian slip...? Hey, that really stinks but I think maybe you dug the hole deeper when you tried to cover it up. Of course, if you didn't cover it up, that text would've been a killer. I'm not sure what I would've done in this case - probably what you did - and then I'd kick myself. This is an error of such magnitude I don't even know what to say. You do realize that she's probably going to think about this and figure out what happened. She may not let it go and you may have to admit the truth. Hon, you really do need to stop sleeping with girls like this unless you tell them upfront where you stand. Yes, they should probably not assume anything but if you're that dead set on not being in a relationship, you need to stop these games you're playing with women. It's very hurtful.
bubblegum Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 ok, thanks god why are people on here such pussies... theres more to dating then not having sex and complaining. i say go out and get some while the gettins good Huh?? More to dating than not having sex and complaining.... what are you talking about?
Author vince1128 Posted October 17, 2008 Author Posted October 17, 2008 Huh?? More to dating than not having sex and complaining.... what are you talking about? I'm saying it seems like that's what all the posts on this site revolve around
Okeydokey Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 vince - how come you don't want to tell her that it is just a short term no strings attached thing from your point of view? is it because you think she will decide not to sleep with you anymore? from what it sounds like she is pretty into you and my guess (from what it sounds like) she will pretty much agree to the relationship (or non-relationship that is) on your terms. plus, i think you would feel a lot less guilty about her feelings further down the road, if you can say "i was straight up with her and she decided to stay in it knowing my limits." i'm a woman and i usually date monogomously for a few months at a time. i always let the guy know right away that i'm not in it for the long haul and they are usually a bit disappointed, but generally decide to stay for as long as it lasts. and i know you might say, ya but they're guys, but i don't that's not true. they are usually pretty emotional/academic types. i always made my exit feeling like i hadn't jerked them around and even though they were kind of bumbed about it, they were ok with it too.
SushiX Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 Dude you're awesome! Must feel good to be playin girls like that. But maybe she isn't in it for long term either. Maybe she just wants sex too. Be careful, girls are just as dangerous if not more then men.
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