Author Die Hard Posted October 20, 2008 Author Posted October 20, 2008 I agree Die Hard, I think the name calling is a bit extreme and would be a total turn off. And how does one enjoy sex with classical music in the background, that would put me to sleep. Classical music is for bubble baths.thanks for the support, it's appreciated. she wants to go back to before and me not worry about calling her names etc.., but i know you don't just change your sexual needs. she'll either end up cheating because her needs aren't being met or she'll resent me for it. somewhere out there she'll find a guy who NEEDS to call her names to get off. then she'll be happy i guess.
Meaplus3 Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 man does anyone read a thread before posting to it anymore lol:) that was the agreement. i can't do it. there is no compromise. it turns me off completely. i cannot call a woman i care about a slut and whore and worse. it won't get any better. i want kids and i cannot call the mother of my kids a whore and slut. it gets worse, trust me, but it's too much information. Please except my apology DH.. I guess I did a quick skim. The whole name calling bit does sound a touch cheesy to me however, it sounds like it's a big turn on for her. I guess you two will have to find some sort of bedroom balance here. How about asking her if you can tone the talk down a bit like for example "Kitten" or "Sexy thang"..I dunno. I just like it when a guy calls out my name. AP:)
Author Die Hard Posted October 20, 2008 Author Posted October 20, 2008 Please except my apology DH.. I guess I did a quick skim. The whole name calling bit does sound a touch cheesy to me however, it sounds like it's a big turn on for her. I guess you two will have to find some sort of bedroom balance here. How about asking her if you can tone the talk down a bit like for example "Kitten" or "Sexy thang"..I dunno. I just like it when a guy calls out my name. AP:)you don't need to apologize ...i was just messing with you.:) like i said though, it's over. those are her needs and her needs are not going to change. there will only be more issues if we were to go forward. she'll be happier if she finds a man who can do as she asks. she was abused as a child also and i think it has something to do with it. maybe not but i'm not waiting around to find out what the deal is. we can both do better regarding compatibility, imo.
prettybaby Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 Yeah, pretty crazy she'd ask you that. I don't understand women who want to feel degraded But anywayz, a breakup does sound appropriate at this point. It's always best to move forward.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 I think you're being selfish with the music. Sex is supposed to be fun but if your refusal to at least compromise on the matter results in a breakup, then the only person who's to blame is yourself. If she doesn't like the music, turn the volume down, change to a song she would like, or turn it off completely. Then turn it back on when the both of you are done with the deed. Don't assume that because the two of you can't come to a good resolution the answer would mean breaking up. My ex used to sleep with the music on low vol, and sometimes I found it weird. We had a discussion once about it and he made it perfectly cleared in almost a strict voice that he has to have music. Which irritated me.
prettybaby Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 ^^ I don't think you read everything. She required other things as well. It seems that they're extremely incompatible in the bedroom, and since that's a pretty important aspect in a relationship, I believe a break up was a good thing.
Author Die Hard Posted October 20, 2008 Author Posted October 20, 2008 ^^ I don't think you read everything.Bingo! Thank You Prettybaby! i've hung out at some internet forums but never have i seen a site where people post without reading like they do here.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 Bingo! Thank You Prettybaby! i've hung out at some internet forums but never have i seen a site where people post without reading like they do here. Oh I've read everything. I think you know you're wrong except you decide to turn the problems back on her and used her problems as an excuse to break up.
Author Die Hard Posted October 20, 2008 Author Posted October 20, 2008 Oh I've read everything. I think you know you're wrong except you decide to turn the problems back on her and used her problems as an excuse to break up.if you read the thread you'd know how dumb you sound.
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