Zorie Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 Hi all! This is my first post so I'll try to keep this as brief and to the point as possible I promise In the past I've always been pretty good at trusting my instincts and it's never prooved me wrong. So a few months ago I met a guy through a friend that I am totally falling for! We've never gone out on an actual date but we've been out together with the same group of friends on several occasions one of which we shared a very passionate kiss Anyway, hes told me that he's completely available and single and he's flirted with me a lot! I've caught him starting and smiling at me, he always "appears" where I'm at, always makes total eye contact when talking to me, he's rubbed his leg against mine (more than just a quick brushing) and has even stepped in close and grabbed a hold of my hand while talking to me!!! We've only exchanged emails at this point and I've tried to email him and be a little flirty but haven't gotten any response (its been over a week) whats up with that!?! Now my situation is that I am going through an uncontested and very amicable divorce and I've been very honest about it but the truth is my marriage has been OVER for a very long time and I was just waiting for the hearing date so it would be official. He told me that it was not a problem for him. (and I just found out my hearing date is on mon) so when we shared the kiss I asked that we just keep it between us for now until my other stuff was taken care of. I still thought I would at least get some response out of him. I know there's nothing I can really do about it now (but over analyze haha) I'm worried he isn't even interested in persuing me Does it sound like I got mixed signals or maybe he just changed his mind about me? ugh... I'm a little bummed since this is the first guy I've really liked since my marriage and I've been casually dating for months! Why would someone show so much interest and then not try to persue anything???
Geishawhelk Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 Can you arrange for you two to run into one another again? get chatty, ask him out for a date... what's stopping you?
Author Zorie Posted October 16, 2008 Author Posted October 16, 2008 Well the last time I saw him was when we exchanged emails and after emailing him and based on his actions that night I guess I just thought I would have gotten SOMETHING out of him that let me know he wanted to persue things. I think the dissapointment shot me down There is a possiblity I may "run" into him this weekend if not then we will definately be at the same halloween party.
Geishawhelk Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 Try to not read anything into it. He may be shy, or he might have been away and not gotten his mail... you never know. if the next time you see him, you ask him flat out - "Sorry, did you get my e-mails?" and he says yes - then ask him why he didn't answer... If he says no - Game on!!
qtkat31 Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 I totally understand what you're talking about, as I went through the same exact thing last year myself. I was going through a divorce and had met a wonderful guy and was getting alot of mixed signals. Truth is, my boyfriend was waiting on me to get divorced. Things didn't change right after I got my divorce but months down the road it changed completely for the best! So don't get down on yourself about it, it maybe that he's waiting on the same thing. Just look at it from his point of view, maybe he's thinking that since you're not divorced just yet that he doesn't want to get to close just incase you were to change your mind about the divorce etc. How many emails have you sent him? if you have only sent 1 I'd just send another quick one saying something like, just checking in..haven't heard back from ya and was wondering if you were still alive..Lol Something like that would let him know you were just wondering what's going on and wouldn't sound like you were harrassing him or anything..Give it time, I'm sure he's interested...Good Luck! Have fun at your Halloween party and I hope you're dressing super sexy to get his attention! : )
Author Zorie Posted October 16, 2008 Author Posted October 16, 2008 I should have flirted from the start but my first email was pretty boring and general so I'm not surprised that I got the same type of response. So then I replied to that one flirting it up but realized that even though I was flirting what I wrote could have been read and didnt really warrant a response! That was over a week ago so I wrote him another email yesterday afternoon asking questions so that he could response so I guess I'll just have to wait and see now. and qtkat31, yes I've got halloween covered I guess if that doesn't do it then I'll have to give up!
qtkat31 Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 Let us know what happens! I'm excited for you, you now have me wanting to dress up for Halloween! Lol
Author Zorie Posted October 22, 2008 Author Posted October 22, 2008 well an update, sorta... I haven't seen him but he did respond to my last email. It wasnt exactly what I was hoping for, he basically answered my Q's and that was it didnt leave it open for any further communication really he told me what he was up to over the weekend so I just responded have a great time! and decided to back off. I have a suspicion now that he either changed his mind about me (maybe because of my situation?) or just wasnt that into me afterall Thing is I had my court hearing on Monday and my divorce was granted so now I am totally FREE! Looks like I'll have to wait til Halloween to share the good news and see if that makes any difference although I'm not gonna hold my breath!
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