A.Smith Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 it was just until recently (a few months ago) that i have been talking to girls more and flirt with them. Unlike the majority of people in high school, i did not get involved in dating or even try to develop my "skills" in this category. i used to be afraid to talk to girls and was (and somewhat still is) completely clueless on how relationship work or develop. To make things worse, i am the type of guy that develop strong emotional attachment to someone i just encounter ( i used to be much worse in my teenage years). However, girls find me very attractive. I'm like one of those cute guys where girls are throwing their panties at them but yet are too afraid to do anything (i'm somewhat less like this in recent months). Thus, my point is that when it comes to woman and relationship my IQ on the subject is very low. I have a few questions i want to address 1- does dating mean you are in a relationship? 2- if dating does not mean relationship, is it okay for me to talk or date other girls? and if the answer is yes. would this not jeopardize my chance of being in a relationship with the person that i want? ( would i not be labeled a player for doing so?) 3- if i show someone that i am interested ( no dating yet. just talking), should i be worried about being seen talking to another girl? 4- if the girl that i am interested in (has no boyfriend) is talking to many other guy, is she labeled as a player? 5- how long does it usually take to finally be labeled as boyfriend and girlfriend? (excluding the "we were friends for many years before we get in a relationship" statement. I am talking about starting from scratch. i.e. you just approach the person) 6- if a girl got your number (never called) and refuse to give you theirs but flirt with you and show sign of interest every time she sees you. What does this most likely mean? please, answer these questions as best as you can. thanks in advance
Author A.Smith Posted October 16, 2008 Author Posted October 16, 2008 only after i've kissed her? i thought its when me and the girl discussed it that is when its exclusive.
Geishawhelk Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 You're getting tied up in rigid rules & reg's and hard 'n' fast guidelines.... things don't work like that.... For some girls, it's a clincher when you kiss. For others it's when you say - "so we're going out together, yes?" Maybe they see you as exclusively theirs after the first date, maybe they think "WTF? I never promised him anything!" when you discover they've been dating other guys after they've dated you four times AND Kissed you! The secret is to treat, and view, every lady differently. Why? Because they're all different. But if you show courteous and respectful interest, they will respond.....
Author A.Smith Posted October 16, 2008 Author Posted October 16, 2008 Thank you for answering this. Basically the idea is that there is no real commitment until both of you guys agree that the relationship is exclusive. If only i knew this before. I got hurt because of my lack of knowledge on this. I may be flirting with them, Going out on a date with them, or for some i may even kissed or sleep with them, still that does not mean that we are exclusively boyfriend and girlfriend.
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