10-4 Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 This is hard to word but it's actually pretty simple. Based upon your answers to my other question, I think what happens with me is this: I'll want to ask out a girl and I wait too long to do it and then I don't see her for a long time. During this time, I start to forget about her and asking her out (obviously, since I don't see her for a long time). So I get out of the mindset and I'm no longer thinking "I'll ask her out next time." Then I'll see her for a split second when I may be busy and since I'm no longer in the mindset, I don't ask her out, but then I think about it but it's already too late. So anyway, I was thinking, maybe to keep myself in the right mindset and even practice approaching a little, do you think it's a good idea to just try approaching girls when I am out and about? I figure it would be good practice but on the other hand, I don't really want to go out with a girl just because I thought she was cute at the mall or whatever because I know that there's a big chance that she's not really my type or is a moron or something. What do you guys think of this? Any other advice? Thanks.
iamenough Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 You're the guy who works in security and posted a message a few days ago right? I remember your post because I'm sort of in a similar situation, only on the opposite side of it. I have a 'crush' on a guy who works security at my place of employment. We do not see each other often and many times when I do see him, he's (quickly) on his way somewhere else. I've wanted to ask him out but because he's always on the go, or always with his security side-kick, there never seems to be a good time to stop him for conversation. Your situation might be different from mine but if it's not, I say take the initiative and ask her out. If you know where she is located in your building, all the better. Go there on your break, or after your shift (or after hers) and get to talking. You might even want to do that for a few days before actually asking her out, unless you're comfortable doing it sooner of course. good luck!
Author 10-4 Posted October 15, 2008 Author Posted October 15, 2008 Yeah your situation sounds a lot like mine. Problem with mine is a lot of times this girl works only a short morning shift so she will come and go before I even get a chance to go out and do my rounds (I'll be stuck in the office or dispatch room). On top of that, she's the one I see the least out of all of her department. I just don't know when I'll see her next and there's a chance that when I see her next I'll be busy (with serious stuff) and I'll have to let her walk by. But I don't want to lose my aggressiveness by waiting to see this one girl forever if that makes any sense.
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