Dreamrunner Posted August 26, 2003 Posted August 26, 2003 At the beginning of this year, I celebrated 3 years together with my gf and the girl of my dreams. She was basically begging me for a ring (saying how her ring finger looked naked, and pointing out rings to me in the mall). Thing is, when we first got together, she told me she never wanted to get married. Two weeks later, she says she needs her space and breaks up with me. Two weeks before she left to be a camp councellor for two months, she broke up with me again, stating she doesn't feel it anymore. She called me from camp saying she thinks she's made a mistake, she still loves me and wants to try again when she gets back, but then doesn't call for 3 weeks. When she finally does call, we talk and I ask her if she still loves me. She says she doesn't know. Thing is, she says she has feelings for her highschool best friend. We were good friends with each other before we stared dating and I knew she had feelings for him. The only reason I ever asked her out was because she said he would never be an issue and she would never act on those feelings. That they would never work out because her love for him was destructive and unhealthy, and if they were together, they would end up destroying each other. Well, today when she came home and we talked really briefly. Basically she said it was over. I've also realized that whenever we start seriously talking about marraige, she's tended to freak out, or break up with me shortly afterwards, but I do think that she still loves me. What I can't figure out is why would she want to be with someone that from what she's told me and from what I've seen, treats her like a complete jerk. I asked her why she wants to be in a relationship she knows is unhealthy, and she says, basically, with all that antagonism, imagine how much love there could be. I've asked some of our mutual friends about this, and they say that she's just confused about what she wants. I'll admit that we're both still young (early 20's). I've always treated her with nothing but respect, and always did my best to make her feel loved. I'm not perfect, but everything I did was with good intentions. I just don't understand why she would want to be with him than with someone she knows loves her and wants to be with her. What am I to do?
jalexy Posted August 26, 2003 Posted August 26, 2003 yes, i think she is very confused, and yes i think she is stringing you along. i think you should move on and there WILL be a girl who will LOVE being treated wonderfully and will treat you back just the same. i dont think its fair what she is doing to you, it just seems like pain for you. give it time and you will eventually be ok and ready to move on.
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