SushiX Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Let's say its a mutual breakup. Who would you say gets over a relationship faster? Men or women? For me it takes about 1-3 months depending on how much I liked her.
Nemo Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Women are like monkeys, and don't let go of one branch until they have a firm grasp on another. So, by the time the breakup is made "official," they are over the guy.
Author SushiX Posted October 15, 2008 Author Posted October 15, 2008 Women are like monkeys, and don't let go of one branch until they have a firm grasp on another. So, by the time the breakup is made "official," they are over the guy. lol sounds just like my ex. She strung me along until she met someone and BAM! just like that "lets be friends"
LikeCharlotte Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Women are like monkeys, and don't let go of one branch until they have a firm grasp on another. So, by the time the breakup is made "official," they are over the guy. Wow, must be a well kept woman secret because I missed the meeting apparently. Yay for broad over generalizations!
Nemo Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Wow, must be a well kept woman secret because I missed the meeting apparently. Yay for broad over generalizations! It's OK to be in denial. We're all friends here. Besides, I think monkeys are cute.
LikeCharlotte Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 It's OK to be in denial. We're all friends here. Besides, I think monkeys are cute. I love monkeys. Am I gay? On a more serious note... I am sure that I was the one who was hurt for longer after my last break up but I don't think healing is a gender thing. It is possible that women, having formed more intimate relationships at a younger age, have an overall better set of coping tools but I do not think that applies to all.
amaysngrace Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Women move on quicker because we're not big babies.
Nemo Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Women move on quicker because we're not big babies. That's one of the most profound things I've ever read on this site. It's truly amazing to have the truth hit you in the face like that.
LikeCharlotte Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Women move on quicker because we're not big babies. Awwwwww. ZING! You hail from my home amaysngrace. I like your attitude!
amaysngrace Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 It's truly amazing to have the truth hit you in the face like that. well yeah...
Nemo Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Awwwwww. ZING! You hail from my home amaysngrace. I like your attitude! Nice chat-up line. Are you sure you're not gay?
LikeCharlotte Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Nice chat-up line. Are you sure you're not gay?I don't even know if she's hot yet.
Nemo Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 I don't even know if she's hot yet. Anybody who can draw a heart in the sand like that will give you orgasms just by listening to their voice.
SnowWhite924 Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Whoever does the dumping moves on faster. I think this is true. When you're the one doing the dumping, you've known for a while the relationship was not what you wanted. So, you've thought about it and had time to deal with the loss even while the other person thinks things are fine.
carhill Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Who moves on sooner. Men or Women? Whoever cares the least. It's not gender-based, IMO. It may result from the ultimate emotional investment or emotional style, but, absent outside influences (OM/OW), at the time of a breakup/divorce, the person further down the path to emotional neutrality should be the one who "moves on" sooner. IMO, it's not an indication of how long the path has been prior to the breakup/divorce. That path may have been exceedingly long and full of cactus spines If a passive-aggressive person is involved, it could very well be the dumpee who moves on first, since they could very well be further down the path, but "forced" the other person to dump them because of their personality style...
northstar1 Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Whoever does the dumping moves on faster. Usually yes, but it also depends on how much thought went into the decision to end it. As has been discussed, women usually consider a breakup a long time before pulling the plug - men are more impulsive So, if a man makes a rash decision to breakup, without really thinking it through, or emotionally distancing themselves, they can often be the one to agonize, regret and ultimately come crawling back at some point. There are no absolutes.
Lizzie60 Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 I would say the dumpee would move faster.. but in general... the woman moves faster IMO... I think women have more facility to run to friends and family for support.. men tend to be too 'proud' to admit 'defeat'.. It is easier for a woman to get back on the dating scene (if she wants it).. (and easier to get sex )
Heaventears Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 Whoever cares the least. It's not gender-based, IMO. It may result from the ultimate emotional investment or emotional style, but, absent outside influences (OM/OW), at the time of a breakup/divorce, the person further down the path to emotional neutrality should be the one who "moves on" sooner. IMO, it's not an indication of how long the path has been prior to the breakup/divorce. That path may have been exceedingly long and full of cactus spines If a passive-aggressive person is involved, it could very well be the dumpee who moves on first, since they could very well be further down the path, but "forced" the other person to dump them because of their personality style... Well said, i agree with you too. But somehow people around me i know usually for the break ups, the guy seems to move onto another relationship first and get over with the last relationship very quickly.
carhill Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 It would truly be an interesting experiment to make elemental emotion transparent in both genders and see how things really are. No socialization, no masking, no control. I think "seem" is a very appropriate word
vivrantflo Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 I would say the dumpee would move faster.. but in general... the woman moves faster IMO... It is easier for a woman to get back on the dating scene (if she wants it).. (and easier to get sex ) This is the truth right here.
carhill Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 IDK....with women on LS posting about rebounds and getting back with ex's, one wonders
Dominique Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 When the woman is/was in love it takes her a very long time to get over the relationship. Whether she is going out or not, or looks "proud", she is dying inside. Let us not kid ourselves. DOM
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