mortensorchid Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 I think all my doubts about this guy have been removed. I officially don't like him anymore! Here's the story... Yesterday I went over to my friend's for a BBQ. We were watching a movie during the evening when I get a text message from the new guy. Just to review, I had met him on line and we met for dinner last week. Afterwards we went for a walk and sat on a bench. There was some kissing and hand holding, nothing else. Then he said that he wanted to see me again, and I said that would be nice and drove home. Afterwards I popped over at a bar for a few minutes, he called me and asked if I liked him. I thought this was a little weird, I said "Um, yeah, of course I do." He proceeds to tell me through text messages over the next few days (as I went away over the weekend and didn't see him) some sexual comments here and there. He tried to get me to take my clothes off and do some kind of phone sex scene, I said "Not doing that, buddy!". At the BBQ last night, he sent many text messages. I texted back saying "I can't talk right now, more later". He kept texting, I replied back "I can't talk right now!" but he kept texting me with some double meaning messages. Eventually I turned the phone off. I think he realized he went to far, when he said that he was sorry if his last comment (about what I don't know) offended me. I got home late and went to bed, didn't respond to it. He just sent me a message saying that he wanted to hear what I had planned for later. "Later" meaning from the other night, saying I was busy and would talk to him later. He said he wanted to get together on Friday. When I suggested the other day (before the BBQ texts) to go out and do something, he said he wanted to come over to my house and watch TV. HELL TO THE NO! He's going to try to get some and then will no doubt disappear. Or am I being crazy here? He didn't respect my space the other night and it really bothered me.
V.Vixen Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 You have instincts for a reason. After only one date, I say to trust the instincts.I wouldn't waste time with someone who made me uncomfortable after 1 date.
flc Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 I must be old fashioned but I just don't see how someone can go from one date to wanting phone sex before the second date? If it was me I would be happy that we got to hold hands and got a kiss on the first date. Overloading someone with text messages and calls is also a big flag of no self confidence or as you said just wanting to get some. Find someone who will take the time to know you before they want to have sex with you. I never get intimate with someone until probably 4-5 dates and a couple of months time. Sex is sooo much better when you wait and have deeper feelings for someone.
Author mortensorchid Posted October 17, 2008 Author Posted October 17, 2008 I must be old fashioned but I just don't see how someone can go from one date to wanting phone sex before the second date? If it was me I would be happy that we got to hold hands and got a kiss on the first date. Overloading someone with text messages and calls is also a big flag of no self confidence or as you said just wanting to get some. Find someone who will take the time to know you before they want to have sex with you. I never get intimate with someone until probably 4-5 dates and a couple of months time. Sex is sooo much better when you wait and have deeper feelings for someone. Yes, absolutely. I hope he'll get the message, even though he keeps texting. I'm not picking up the phone for him. I think he's rude.
bubblegum Posted October 17, 2008 Posted October 17, 2008 Oh yeah he sounds like a loser! Good for you for not just letting his "dates" with you consist of sitting at your place watching TV!
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