SarahT111 Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Hello all! I need some help sorting out my relationship! Unfortunatly im in a LD realtionship Im starting to have problems with it and im feeling really down. I dont know how to solve things or how to act so I thought I would come here and see if anyone could help me out and lift my spirits a bit! The big problem I am having is that is he just making no effort with me!! He did all the chasing and he asked me out. I did really like him to but I was really scared of getting hurt again so it was him who did most of the chasing. Anyway it hasn't been long but he is just making no effort with me. I go on trips to see him all the time. I buy him presents. I always make sure I contact him and I always try and be as supportive as possible. However I feel like im getting nothing in return. He is ALWAYS to busy for me. I can go days without hearing from him and it breaks my heart. I sit alone and worry all night until he contacts me, which is always by txt. When we do get rare moments to talk during his busy life its always about him and his stresses etc. He rarely askes after me. I felt so sad today walking home, I havent heard from him in two days. I text him twice with no reply so have all but given up for now. I went home and just burst into tears because I dont know what to do. I understand he is busy but so am I and I always make the effort. I dont want to make him angry or lose him by bringing up the subject. I have done so before and Im worried he will think im nagging and get rid of me. He was good about it last time and said he was trying his best and he was just really busy. I really adore him when we are together and things are ok and I couldn't bare losing him and coping with another broken heart! But im so scared thats what will happen. Im constantly sad and worried and so tired of hearing 'O hes just busy' from everyone else. Im get so anxious and upset that its starting to affect other aspects of my life. So I guess the question is what do I do? How do I cope with all my worries and paranoia and just calm down when I dont hear from him. Whenever I do finally hear from him I have so much built up emotion that I just snap back at him and thats not who I want to be at all. I desperatly want to make it work and be the best girl I can for him but im struggling. Also do you think its wise I try and contact him again or just back off? I havent tried to contact him today. jst twice yesterday with no reply. I would appreciate sooooooooooooooooo much some advice here! Im ripping my hair out with stress over it!! Thanks so much!!!
lofi_tokyo Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Pick up the book "He's just not that into you". Read it, and you'll see why you need to dump this man fast! Its gonna hurt being single, but heres the thing, your options are this right now: a) Keep trying with him and feel stressed and feel like crap b) Walk away from him and feel like crap ****ty on both ends BUT! Option b does not mean you'll feel like crap forever. You'll get over him, slowly maybe, but you will, you'll find a GOOD man that won't make you stress anymore! If he finds someone else so what? Hes a ****ty guy to date. Period. If you stick with option a... we'll its not gonna get better, and sooner or later you'll be cornered into picking option b anyways. So! Go for b, take the pain, get better, be happy, love a new sexy man that makes you feel sexy and wanted and LOVED AND APPRECIATED!
amaysngrace Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 I dont want to make him angry or lose him by bringing up the subject. I have done so before and Im worried he will think im nagging and get rid of me. He was good about it last time and said he was trying his best and he was just really busy. So you told him how you felt and he called you a nag? Nice. Then you say he was "good about it". Let me guess...he wanted sex... At the very least stop calling him. It's time that you became as "busy" as he is. Find something -ANYTHING- to do to get your mind off of him and bring the focus back to you. If you are thinking about him and he is thinking about him then who is thinking about you???
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