zazue Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 It has been seven weeks since I found out about my abusive STBXH'S third affair. I was a mess at first (Check out my other threads), but filling out those divorce papers, and dropping them off at my attorney's made my heart feel so light. I've been on anti-depressents for 3 1/2 weeks, and boy has that helped me a lot. I would recommend them to anyone going through a divorce. My STBXH and his "fiance" (he let her text me that he proposed to her on our son's birthday) have caused me so much pain and heartache, but all it did was make me stronger. It made me realize that I have a get out of jail free card, and I am using it. I am truely moving on and looking forward to the peaceful, fun filled life I have always deserved. I go out with friends. I've lost 35 pounds through smart eating, and exercise, and I am doing what makes me happy for the first time in 23 years. So thank you everyone for your kind words and thoughts. I never would have thought I would feel this good seven weeks ago. For everyone out there who are still hurting, just remember it is a temporary feeling. You will come through it at the end a stronger, wiser person. Take the time to work on yourself, and forget about the person causing you the pain. Take care of yourselves, live for yourselves, and I promise you you will feel better. The craziest part of this whole thing is now my STBXH wants to try and work things out, but he is a day late and a dollar short, and I am happy and hopeful for the first time in many years.
Karma101 Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Good for you! Congratulations on moving forward w/ your life. He let his fiancee text you about his engagement?!? What an @ss! Let her have him!
Author zazue Posted October 15, 2008 Author Posted October 15, 2008 Thanks Karma, I'm thinking about sending her some beautiful flowers thanking her for taking that alcoholic, abusive man out of my life.
Angel1111 Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 35 pounds!!!! Way to go, girl!!! That is awesome. When I divorced my abusive husband, I told everyone that I lost 250 lbs of ugly fat overnight. Get it? He weighted 250 lbs. hee! hee! Telling you about the proposal. Uh....now, what woman in this world would want to be with a man who would do this to another person? What woman would do this??? Amazing. Truly amazing. Hey, you think you feel good now? Wait about a year. You'll wonder what on earth ever make you think you wanted to keep this jerk in your life. I'm so proud of you!
Author zazue Posted October 15, 2008 Author Posted October 15, 2008 I am feeling happy now, and I have so many supportive friends, and family, plus everyone here. I know I will be better. I can't wait to see what the future holds for me without that ugly abusive man in my life. I feel so much lighter in my heart and soul.
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