Author In_waiting Posted November 1, 2008 Author Posted November 1, 2008 Wild Soul, he was pretty clear about it. He promised me that this time next year we will be openly dating. I do worry though that when push comes to shove, he may have trouble taking the leap. He swears he is going to do it, and tell me "Do you believe me now..." when he has made good on his promises. I look forward to him telling me I told you so. I will be happy to have him gloat.
Mino Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Wild Soul, he was pretty clear about it. He promised me that this time next year we will be openly dating. I do worry though that when push comes to shove, he may have trouble taking the leap. He swears he is going to do it, and tell me "Do you believe me now..." when he has made good on his promises. I look forward to him telling me I told you so. I will be happy to have him gloat.Hi IW... Just want to let you know that its harder once they do move out. mine is going on 3 months.. Has his own place now. Big accomplishment the other times he made it 3 weeks. This time he has gotten his own place, no moving in with me.He is in IC once a week. He is reading books to get him through. He has a routine with his child. He has told everyone about the seperation. He has made great progress in coming through. But this also has brought on some challeges for us. His guilt.. his grieving , his healing , his moods...The rollarcoaster has not stopped in that perspective, it has only changed directions. before I knew how to deal with our issues, this is a different set of issues, and dealing with these issues was something I was not prepared for, not at all:(
NoIDidn't Posted November 2, 2008 Posted November 2, 2008 Hi, I just found this site and looking to meet some people in the same situation. I met my MM about three years ago. Almost exactly six weeks after meeting him, we made love. It has been a roller coaster ride since then. He has plans to leave in the next 4-6 months. He also says he plans to marry me following his mandatory separation period prior to being able to divorce. Usually I am very happy with everything in my relationship other than the usual frustrations from some of the limitations on our contact. I am looking so forward to being able to date him openly. I am very nervous about the next phase of our relationship though. Will be needing the advice of someone that has been there done that. I hate to be the lone voice of dissent here, but I give a cautious "don't believe the hype". You were told that he was leaving in 5 to 6 years. This time next year isn't even 5 years according to what you have already stated. I think he was shocked that you chose to stay even though he through out such a far away time period. But, he might actually be telling the truth. So, be careful. If you think the affair was a roller coaster, you ain't seen nothin' yet.
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