DunnoWhat Posted October 14, 2008 Posted October 14, 2008 Met a girl had a great date the other week. I knew her for a while but she lives in another country etc. We're having alot of contact lately though through text messages and MSN. She seems to be on MSN alot now too because before the date she was never on it. We're not official yet but I'd like it to become official but I don't know what she thinks. The other night when talking to her she kept hinting that I should come to her country. I said I might come to "see a certain girl". Then she said her friend wanted to meet me and i thanked her for saying good things about me. After a while the topic turned to babies. She has already names picked out (which I have known about) and then started adding them to her own name. Eventually she suggested (I saw it coming) adding them to mine to see how it would sound.. Which she did. She's a good girl and we get on great so I'm wondering is it a bit strange that she wants babies so badly?? She is 21.
TigerCub Posted October 14, 2008 Posted October 14, 2008 She lives in another country but you just had a date? Sorry, I don't get it..
Author DunnoWhat Posted October 14, 2008 Author Posted October 14, 2008 She lives in another country but you just had a date? Sorry, I don't get it.. She came over on vacation for a few days. We met once during the summer before she moved home again because she was here for a year before that.
Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 I have baby names picked out, and they have nothing to do with the guy I'm dating, AND I'm YEARS from even seriously considering poppin' out little SGs. I don't thnk it's a big deal.
Author DunnoWhat Posted October 15, 2008 Author Posted October 15, 2008 I have baby names picked out, and they have nothing to do with the guy I'm dating, AND I'm YEARS from even seriously considering poppin' out little SGs. I don't thnk it's a big deal. She told me that ages ago but she was trying them out with my surname.
spookie Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 I got my names picked out. I try them out with last names of guys I'm dating (hypothesized with my own of course). So what?
Kamille Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 She told me that ages ago but she was trying them out with my surname. Probably trying to see how you would react. Of course she tried it with your name. You were talking baby names with the girl you are dating and things are going great. If she'd popped out of the blue with a name, then I would worry. In this situation it just sounds like ungarded conversation. Right now, all it means is that she really digs you. Enough to do foolish girl things with you. How about, before you panic, you ask her what she wants to do before she settles down for a family? I'm guessing her answer will involve plans that put the babies off for years.
corazoncito Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Some people do pick out baby names way in advance, but I think it's weird to start sharing them and trying them out with the last name of someone that you've only been on one date with. I mean, sure, go ahead and try them with the guy's surname, but don't TELL him about it after only one date!
Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 She told me that ages ago but she was trying them out with my surname. So? I do that too. My chosen names work best with Irish sounding surnames. I get excited every time I date someone with such a name, like... O'Brian, or McFlaherty. *swoon*
Trialbyfire Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Some people do pick out baby names way in advance, but I think it's weird to start sharing them and trying them out with the last name of someone that you've only been on one date with. I mean, sure, go ahead and try them with the guy's surname, but don't TELL him about it after only one date! How to lose a guy in one sentence!
Jersey Shortie Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Well, it's a little strange that she is sharing her baby names with you so soon. But it's not strange that she has her baby names picked out and that she tires them out with your name. Heck, I had baby names before I knew how babies were made! And it's fun for chicks to try out the guy they really like with their name. It's a girl thing. It's also not strange that she is 21 and wants babies. She really likes you.
Citizen Erased Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 I'm sorry, but this girl sounds nutso to me. One date and she brings this up?
Trialbyfire Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Even now, at 33, if a guy started talking about baby names with me on the first date, I would be running like the wind!
Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Some people do pick out baby names way in advance, but I think it's weird to start sharing them and trying them out with the last name of someone that you've only been on one date with. I mean, sure, go ahead and try them with the guy's surname, but don't TELL him about it after only one date! Yeah, I actually have to agree with you on that one. I just shared my baby names with someone via PM. But I don't even share them with friends! (Only because I think they'll steal them!)
Kamille Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Even now, at 33, if a guy started talking about baby names with me on the first date, I would be running like the wind! You and me both. But I think the older I get the more commitmentphobic I become.
corazoncito Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Yeah, I actually have to agree with you on that one. I just shared my baby names with someone via PM. But I don't even share them with friends! (Only because I think they'll steal them!) Well, I guess a woman with a lot of skillz, just the right balance of flirtiness and lightheartedness, could maybe do it and get away with it as "I'm not really serious. Just showing you in a silly way that I like you". But that would require a lot of skillz! Totally on board with the secret baby names. Not just because people steal them, but they also feel the need to tell you why they don't like them!
Trialbyfire Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 You and me both. But I think the older I get the more commitmentphobic I become. No, no, don't use that word. You're becoming more selective, know what you want and will not settle for less. I had a guy try to introduce me to his parents on the third date, as a surprise. Yes, I ran! Imagine a guy talking about baby names on or after the first date. "Sorry, while in the bathroom I got an emergency call from my parents. My Dad's really sick in the hospital. I've gotta' run. Not to worry, I'll call a cab. I've already paid the bill so no need to do that. Take care."
Author DunnoWhat Posted October 15, 2008 Author Posted October 15, 2008 So it seems the women think it's no big deal but the men here would get a bit scared. So? I do that too. My chosen names work best with Irish sounding surnames. I get excited every time I date someone with such a name, like... O'Brian, or McFlaherty. *swoon* Thats funny because she says the same.
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