lofi_tokyo Posted October 14, 2008 Posted October 14, 2008 Theres this guy I talk to a fair amount - strictly as friends. But he keeps wanting more, even though I am not interested in him that way. Hes a wonderful person, cute, charming, but just... I don't want to fool around with him. Anyways, he has twice now flipped out at me over not wanting to fool around with him, and how much it bothers him that I wont. I just am at a loss of words, I don't know what to tell him! How is this a realization you ask? Because with my ex, there were times when he wouldn't do something... like, something I felt was important in a relationship (ie, show affection much), and I would get upset with him. We'd chat a bit, then he'd say he wasn't sure what to tell me, and tell me he was sorry I was sad. We'd both see eachother's reason for feeling as we did, but things NEVER changed. I kept feeling upset, and he didn't do what I needed. Now I see how tiring it is! Wow! I mean, my ex and I were in a relationship, so its a bit different... but its really hard to deal with a person when they KEEP asking for the same thing and you KEEP telling them that you don't want to give them it. It turns you off of the idea entirely. I guess this is one of those things where you "learn about yourself" after a break up, and how you can improve. Lesson #1 done!
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