jakerupp Posted October 14, 2008 Posted October 14, 2008 So i have been dating this girl (Whitney) for 7 months now, i know not that long compared to most everyone. I always thought we were fine and the first month of the relationship i kinda messed up, i didnt cut off all my ties to people i talked to before we started dating. She found out and its not like i was hiding it because i let her go into my facebook. One girl i talked to liked me a lot (natalie) and i said i would date her if she were older but 2 years is quite an age difference so i turned her down. Whitney claimed that of the 3 girls who i just talked to normally (natalie, kenzi, and veronica) that i secretly had a thing for one of them. in all honesty i didnt, i was just a social being. Then during the summer i went to a carwash and one of them (veronica) worked there and i just said hey and that is about it. later that night while hanging out with my girlfriend i got a text saying hey from the car wash girl veronica. so i was showing Whitney my phone because she monitors me like CRAZY and she saw i had a text and i noticed it was from veronica so i pulled it away and was going to delete it to save an argument, well Whitney said no let me see it. so i did and then she got mad at me, and basically about left me. Then just earlier this month we have been having problems with this one girl (stephanie). i mean i talked to her very, very, VERY little, i was a complete dick to stephanie and apparently it didnt mean much, that i was a dick, to Whitney. Whitney just thinks i am flirting with this stupid girl and doesnt believe me because i have "lied" so many times. i dont know how many times i told her but i said if i ever like any of the girls we have fought over then i could just break up with you and date them but i havent yet so that is why you should know nothing bad will happen to you. but i guess i just hurt her so bad with this last thing. i mean i thought we were fine then Whitney goes crazy because i talked to this girl and then stephanie confronted my girlfriend Whitney and said i dont talk to stpehanie but this other girl (joanna). so of course, Whitney calls me immediately chewing me out. I say that is a lie and she should believe me but of course i have been "lying" to her about all this that she believes stephanie because stephanie is "scared and is telling the truth so she doesnt get beat up." but then i text stephanie chewing her out telling i hate her, which i do, and so she says something else to Whitney saying that Whitney said i talked to joanna and all this confusing crap. so i said, "hey Whitney, if she was telling the truth wouldnt she have her story straight?" she didnt care cause i still "lied" i guess. Now here is the background on Whitney: she is my first TRUE love, my first real kiss, 1st person to really make out with, first time having sex and all that, first person to go on dates with and all that. she said she needs space and so i have kind of been ruining it the past week that we have been apart doing what i used to do and just try to talk my way back into her heart but it hasnt worked. so she is just getting sick of me talking to her and my heart hurts so much because i cant talk to the one girl i text. i have been walking with her in the halls of school and trying to kind of show her i love her by holding her or hugging her or trying to kiss her. but i think i tuined it tonight because i gave her some space finally and texted her asking if she wanted to talk before bed and she said about what so i said about stuff, not about us because i dont want to fight. so i told her what my sister and i talked about and how we both were wrong because i lied and she wont let me talk to my friends who i have known just as long as her. i have given up all my friends and i dont have anyone left now because i loved her so much. all i did was hang out with her and my one true best friend. she only chilled with me and her family. this last weekend was homecoming and my dumb self left to go to texas to watch texas tech vs nebraska and i heard from a good friend that they left early and she was talking about getting drunk. she gave that up and told me a long time ago that if she were to drink again she would go nuts and probably go back to how she was. so i freaked out and called her and she yelled at me because i was controlling her and all that. so my phone died and i got into town that night calling all my friends seeing where she was but no one answered and they all understood but Whitney was the only person who didnt. She has been telling me that she needs space but not to worry and to trust her. but i may of blown that tonight when i called her because it resorted into me talking to her and about what me and my sister said and then she hung up and i called her several times and she finally answered and said she doesnt know what she wants and isnt wanting a guy right now and wants to be left alone. im planning on leaving her alone but i just dont understand her at all. What do you all think about this and how should i go about handling it? i told her i am here for when she is done with space but it seems like it might be a long time and i dont want to wait around to find out she likes someone else. I need a lot of help. Should i text her once a day, continue to see her in the hall, talk to her in person when i see her, or should i just be myself and include her into some conversations but not direct them towards her and force her into it?
Author jakerupp Posted October 14, 2008 Author Posted October 14, 2008 So no one can help me with my problems? I basically ruined it today. one of kaitlyns friends talked to me during study hall and said you two broke up? i said yeah and she wanted to know why. so i told her because she thinks that i flirt with other girls and i dont. so i thought i would tell Whitney that to kind of gain points. Instead when i got to that part she stormed off away from me. Idk what i did wrong, maybe she thought i should have added that i lied and stuff. but then i saw her again during lunch and i basically told her the rest and that i also lied to you and all this other stuff. so after lunch this happens: This guy named franky, who i always thought she had a thing with, was at the end of the hall today. so Whitney waited on me to arrive and when i got close enough she left to go flirt with him so i could see. I knew the whole time she was doing it to get me mad and jealous. It worked and i wasnt a bigger person about it so i was a dick to her. I told her that she doesnt want to go to class because i will embarass her. she ignored me and kept walking and then got halfway to her seat and so i yelled WOW WHITNEY, I CANT BELIEVE YOU HAD SEX WITH THAT GUY. idk why i did, but i was just so mad. So i stayed in there for 15 minutes just saying wow that was short, must not have been worth while and just a bunch of stuff like that. I REGRET with all my heart and love in my world that i wish i did not do that. it set me back so far and i will never forgive myself. i hope she will talk to me one day again, hopefully soon, but i am just incredibly stupid and i may not deserve a girl like her for acting immature.
Geishawhelk Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 True. You're an idiot. Carry on with your studies, get good grades, and forget romance. At the moment, it's more trouble than it's worth.
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