lonelyandlost Posted October 14, 2008 Posted October 14, 2008 I have never ever posted to something like this before, but I am feeling pretty alone and hoping someone will read this and will relate to my situation and offer some advice. I am in my mid twenties and have been with my husband since I was a teenager and married young. We have one child already together, who is a toddler and another one on the way. Shortly after I found out I was pregnant with #2 he told me he still loved me, but wasn't in love with me anymore. I was totally blind sided, I thought everything was going great. I guess I just thought if someone felt that way they wouldn't allow for another child to come into the picture.... So after finding this out, he also expressed to me that he has been unhappy for awhile, that he didn't know if this is where he wants to be. I am totally devoted to this man, I love him and would do anything for him. I have been very accomodating to him and his needs...it doesn't matter what I do or say it isn't enough. He can't give me a specific reason of what I have done, other than he doesn't feel excited to see me anymore and that we have nothing in common. He recently moved out and I am devastated....I am still pregnant and our other child is missing him. I don't know how to function at work and I just want to know there is some hope that he is coming back. I never imagined my life coming to this and the thought of it ending just breaks my heart. I worry about my kids, finances and if I'll ever find anyone else that will make me feel the way he did....I don't know how to proceed, I feel like I am walking on egg shells. Now that he is gone, I am trying to give him his space, like he asked.....He has totally turned away from me, won't talk to me unless it is about the kids and is totally pulled away. Is it possible to give someone their space and for them to realize what they will lose? Why does this happen and why do good people get screwed over? .......... So lost and lonely... here.
ed-205 Posted October 14, 2008 Posted October 14, 2008 I know you are in pain right now, but the single most important thing for you to do is to take care of yourself and your baby. Perhaps once the child is born, it will turn him around, but be prepared to do what is best for yourself and your children, with him or without him. I was placed in a similar situation 20 years ago when my wife walked out, leaving me to be a single parent to our 2 sons. I simply let her go, and in the end it worked out for the best for my boys and myself. There is nothing I regret, and nothing I would have done to get her back once she made up her mind. She just wasn't worth it. Good luck to you.
imagine Posted October 14, 2008 Posted October 14, 2008 I should get a button on my keyboard that prints the following: Google "marriage builders" and read "Surviving an affair". Buy the book. A lot of us here take inspiration from these. Why don't you read direct, then come post and ask details?
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