flc Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 I'd like to add my 2 cents to this.... I never did the whole online dating thing until the past month... I'm male, didn't post a profile pic (but mentioned that I'd send one to anyone who wanted one). I also made it a point to attach a picture of myself to any email that I'd send to someone.... The past week and a bit I'd been having a nice conversation with this woman I msg'ed (and who msg'd me back... in fact I've only msg'd about 4 people... 3 responded). We talked for about 3 hours on the phone last night, and will meet up sometime next week. In other words, things are progressing nicely... ... my point is, it CAN be done. But probably only if the one without the pic initiates the contact. Did she have a picture?
lovestruck818 Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 I'd like to add my 2 cents to this.... I never did the whole online dating thing until the past month... I'm male, didn't post a profile pic (but mentioned that I'd send one to anyone who wanted one). I also made it a point to attach a picture of myself to any email that I'd send to someone.... The past week and a bit I'd been having a nice conversation with this woman I msg'ed (and who msg'd me back... in fact I've only msg'd about 4 people... 3 responded). We talked for about 3 hours on the phone last night, and will meet up sometime next week. In other words, things are progressing nicely... ... my point is, it CAN be done. But probably only if the one without the pic initiates the contact. I would never respond to anyone without a pic...looks are way too important.
2sure Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 Back when I was on line dating, which I did for years, I never had a picture on the profile itself. And I had no problem meeting people I liked. I understood most people would ignore a profile w/o a pic because for the most part I did the same. So, I made sure my profile had an eye catching title, so they would at least slow down and read the rest. Also, I stated in the profile that I would be happy to exchange pictures via email if I thought we could be a match. And that for privacy and security reasons, as a woman, I didnt feel posting my picture publicly was a smart idea. Guys really seemed to understand and respect that!
lovestruck818 Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 Back when I was on line dating, which I did for years, I never had a picture on the profile itself. And I had no problem meeting people I liked. I understood most people would ignore a profile w/o a pic because for the most part I did the same. So, I made sure my profile had an eye catching title, so they would at least slow down and read the rest. Also, I stated in the profile that I would be happy to exchange pictures via email if I thought we could be a match. And that for privacy and security reasons, as a woman, I didnt feel posting my picture publicly was a smart idea. Guys really seemed to understand and respect that! well an eye-catching headline would mean nothing to me if the person was fat or ugly...
likestolaugh Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 Did she have a picture? yep, she has several pics... and she's quite the looker I must say
2sure Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 Agreed, of course. Still, it apparently made a lot of people go ahead and read the rest of the profile. And after reading the rest, many of them felt it was worth a shot. Honest, I received many replies and met quite a few good guys. I would go so far as to say that when they received my picture, their pleasant surprise added to the charm. I know that having a picture will generate more hits, I'm just saying - it can still be a successful experience.
flc Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 yep, she has several pics... and she's quite the looker I must say So to follow up if she did not have a picture would you still have found her and sent her an email?
lovestruck818 Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 yep, she has several pics... and she's quite the looker I must say ok while I'm not doubting she is very good-looking, it makes me wonder why someone that good-looking can't find someone to date in person...
likestolaugh Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 So to follow up if she did not have a picture would you still have found her and sent her an email? in this case yes, because our interests were almost freakishly similar...
Author gummybear Posted October 16, 2008 Author Posted October 16, 2008 Agreed, of course. Still, it apparently made a lot of people go ahead and read the rest of the profile. And after reading the rest, many of them felt it was worth a shot. Honest, I received many replies and met quite a few good guys. I would go so far as to say that when they received my picture, their pleasant surprise added to the charm. I know that having a picture will generate more hits, I'm just saying - it can still be a successful experience. Ok you are much better at expressing stuff than me. I feel the same way as you do. I hate to say it but yea I do enjoy how pleasantly surprised guys get when they receive my pic (since they prob expected the worst lol).
misternoname Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 I used Match with a lot of success...after A LOT of dates I met somebody special and we're now exclusive. Hate to sound shallow but I would NEVER respond to someone without a pic. Let's face it, humans are visual creatures. Without initial physical attraction most of us would never get to "hi." Nature of the beast I suppose. P.S. My significant other had a very marginal picture...she looked reasonably cute on line but much better in person so I guess I'm not too overly superficial!
2sure Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 gummybear - I had a great time on line dating. Even the few "bad" experiences I had werent so bad - they eventually became funny cocktail party stories. Typical of the Male/Female Double standard - I was very hesitant to respond to someone elses profile w/o a pic - while at the same time holding back my own. I know, guys, I know. Someone on this thread asked why a good looking woman would have to resort to meeting guys on line. Thats easy. Convenience and SCREENING. I have to say that for me, it really beat meeting random guys in person at functions or bars, even if they were great looking, and finding out two or three dates in that we had zero in common. A few emails, the information, their written thoughts...if you are looking and listening can tell a lot about someone. I envy you ( a little) the fun you will have! By the way - this is how my H and I met. We both enjoyed on line dating a lot.
electric_sheep Posted October 16, 2008 Posted October 16, 2008 When I was on an online dating site a few years ago the situation largely mirrored real-life, in the sense that the girls signed up for free but never contacted anyone unless contacted first (because this required money). The guys were typically the ones that forked over the money and actually sent out messages. In a situation like this, you'll find that guys will rarely mess with profiles without pictures. In fact, a lot of sites allow for you to simply weed these out. This is particularly the case if there are plenty of profiles available on the site. Now, for the newer style sites that match you based on personality and interests, I think I'd probably message someone if they were considered a "match".
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